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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 740520" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>Agree that you handled it great.</p><p></p><p>Agree that you need to focus on the kids/ grandkids you can help. Its all about what is and is not in your control. </p><p></p><p>Just my own twist. I always say that I love/ trust you... The clean you, the you inside, not the you controlled by drugs. When drugs have control its not you. The thoughts, the actions aren't yours, its the thoughts and actions of drugs. Thus why I need you to be 100% clean. I can't allow the drugs in the house or near the sibs. Can re-word that to religious words. For some the religious words fit their values. But in sub abuse terms there's the addict and the addict in recovery. As long as you're an active addict we can only have a relationship separated by some amt of space. If you need a place to live while an addict I can give you names of rehabs. When you are clean we can resume a closer relationship.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 740520, member: 23371"] Agree that you handled it great. Agree that you need to focus on the kids/ grandkids you can help. Its all about what is and is not in your control. Just my own twist. I always say that I love/ trust you... The clean you, the you inside, not the you controlled by drugs. When drugs have control its not you. The thoughts, the actions aren't yours, its the thoughts and actions of drugs. Thus why I need you to be 100% clean. I can't allow the drugs in the house or near the sibs. Can re-word that to religious words. For some the religious words fit their values. But in sub abuse terms there's the addict and the addict in recovery. As long as you're an active addict we can only have a relationship separated by some amt of space. If you need a place to live while an addict I can give you names of rehabs. When you are clean we can resume a closer relationship. [/QUOTE]
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