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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 740541" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This is painful for me to read.</p><p></p><p>I hang onto the hope that if my son were to get sober he would change. I understand that he uses marijuana to self-medicate, but I hang onto the idea that this is like banging your head with a hammer in order to cure a headache. That the remedies he chooses are doing him in. And that if he could dig himself out of the dependency he could find other ways to deal with his distress. But I recognize all of this is having an opinion about his life, which I have no right to do in any activist sense.</p><p></p><p>But I can't take the way he lives. I can't take how it is to interact with him when he is too close into my life. </p><p></p><p>The bottom line is I cannot take it. And I don't have to let him live in any property I own. </p><p></p><p>Where I break down here is when I start thinking of my son as a primarily mentally ill person, I feel I am obligated to do more, and to do it forever. Even though I know this is not the case. I start feeling that if I done something different, maybe there could have been a different result. I start feeling some peace of this, a giant peace of this, is my fault, my responsibility.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 740541, member: 18958"] This is painful for me to read. I hang onto the hope that if my son were to get sober he would change. I understand that he uses marijuana to self-medicate, but I hang onto the idea that this is like banging your head with a hammer in order to cure a headache. That the remedies he chooses are doing him in. And that if he could dig himself out of the dependency he could find other ways to deal with his distress. But I recognize all of this is having an opinion about his life, which I have no right to do in any activist sense. But I can't take the way he lives. I can't take how it is to interact with him when he is too close into my life. The bottom line is I cannot take it. And I don't have to let him live in any property I own. Where I break down here is when I start thinking of my son as a primarily mentally ill person, I feel I am obligated to do more, and to do it forever. Even though I know this is not the case. I start feeling that if I done something different, maybe there could have been a different result. I start feeling some peace of this, a giant peace of this, is my fault, my responsibility. [/QUOTE]
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