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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 743779" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>One of my beliefs about birthmothers who intentionally surrender is that they are the smart ones, the strong ones. They recognize and acknowledge that they cannot do a good job of parenting this child. They have the strength to put other needs above their maternal instincts and emotional bond to this baby. Isn't that what we do when we put them in a placement? We acknowledge that we are not what this child needs. We are not enough. Our feeling of loss and inadequacy is similar to the feeling of abandonment of the child. But there is a greater good. Ultimately the adopted child sees the greater good of both the birthmother's decision and the treatment decision. A manipulative child will try to put guilt in both places. A mature child will see the wisdom of both decisions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 743779, member: 23371"] One of my beliefs about birthmothers who intentionally surrender is that they are the smart ones, the strong ones. They recognize and acknowledge that they cannot do a good job of parenting this child. They have the strength to put other needs above their maternal instincts and emotional bond to this baby. Isn't that what we do when we put them in a placement? We acknowledge that we are not what this child needs. We are not enough. Our feeling of loss and inadequacy is similar to the feeling of abandonment of the child. But there is a greater good. Ultimately the adopted child sees the greater good of both the birthmother's decision and the treatment decision. A manipulative child will try to put guilt in both places. A mature child will see the wisdom of both decisions. [/QUOTE]
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