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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 743786" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, Sonic was taken from his birthmother by CPS due to her drug addiction. She made no decision although she never did what she had to in order to get him back. Took us four long years before her rights were terimnated and we could legally adopt him.</p><p></p><p>Jumpers birthmom was a love and we got to know each other well. She definitely did it because her family shunned this half black child she was carrying and she knew she couldnt raise another child without parental help (her two year old was half hispanic. I guess hispanic was okay but not black). We llove this smart and caringcbirthmom and hope to see her again with Jumper. We have been in touch and she is interested in the only girl child she had. She also wanted to protect her from the birth father who is a serious felon and drug addict.</p><p></p><p>Princess came from Korea Back then Korean girls who did not have a "daddy name" are usually shunned and have to prostitute. Princess understands that herhbirthmother had no good choice but I know she would like to meet her some day. I would too. I would give her s big hug. We have her full name. I dont think she will look until we are gone. I think she is afraid she would hurt us, although she wouldnt.</p><p></p><p>So my kids all know their stories. That has not stopped Princess from feeling abandoned sometimes and Sonic, maybe due to his autism and living in the moment, has told me cheerfully "no thank you" every time I ask if he wants to find his birth family. DCFS has sent letters telling him they would be happy to try to arrange meetings for them but he truly isnt interested.</p><p></p><p>i hope all three feel good about their birthparents. I told Sonic that his birthmom was too sick to take care of a baby but that underneath the drugs I know she is wonderful because HE is. I believe this too. She lived in one of tje poorest and most gang infested parts of Chicago. I cant blame her for her choices.</p><p></p><p> Sonic is the least interested in his past but Jumper has already had some minor contact with her birthmom and doesnt act abandoned or upset over being adopted either. She is engaged and wants to both give birth and adopt children. And she wants to name her first boy as our last name, which IS a boys name. She is very attached to us.</p><p></p><p>It hasnt all been easy. We adopted a lovely brilliant six year old from Asia who never could attach and ran off after he married but first he had asked his sister Princess to marry him. He didnt get family. And we adopted a total psychopath who molested the younger kids and we insisted he go. Right away. That is when we decided to stop doing foster and adopting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 743786, member: 1550"] Well, Sonic was taken from his birthmother by CPS due to her drug addiction. She made no decision although she never did what she had to in order to get him back. Took us four long years before her rights were terimnated and we could legally adopt him. Jumpers birthmom was a love and we got to know each other well. She definitely did it because her family shunned this half black child she was carrying and she knew she couldnt raise another child without parental help (her two year old was half hispanic. I guess hispanic was okay but not black). We llove this smart and caringcbirthmom and hope to see her again with Jumper. We have been in touch and she is interested in the only girl child she had. She also wanted to protect her from the birth father who is a serious felon and drug addict. Princess came from Korea Back then Korean girls who did not have a "daddy name" are usually shunned and have to prostitute. Princess understands that herhbirthmother had no good choice but I know she would like to meet her some day. I would too. I would give her s big hug. We have her full name. I dont think she will look until we are gone. I think she is afraid she would hurt us, although she wouldnt. So my kids all know their stories. That has not stopped Princess from feeling abandoned sometimes and Sonic, maybe due to his autism and living in the moment, has told me cheerfully "no thank you" every time I ask if he wants to find his birth family. DCFS has sent letters telling him they would be happy to try to arrange meetings for them but he truly isnt interested. i hope all three feel good about their birthparents. I told Sonic that his birthmom was too sick to take care of a baby but that underneath the drugs I know she is wonderful because HE is. I believe this too. She lived in one of tje poorest and most gang infested parts of Chicago. I cant blame her for her choices. Sonic is the least interested in his past but Jumper has already had some minor contact with her birthmom and doesnt act abandoned or upset over being adopted either. She is engaged and wants to both give birth and adopt children. And she wants to name her first boy as our last name, which IS a boys name. She is very attached to us. It hasnt all been easy. We adopted a lovely brilliant six year old from Asia who never could attach and ran off after he married but first he had asked his sister Princess to marry him. He didnt get family. And we adopted a total psychopath who molested the younger kids and we insisted he go. Right away. That is when we decided to stop doing foster and adopting. [/QUOTE]
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