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<blockquote data-quote="firehorsewoman" data-source="post: 621568" data-attributes="member: 15804"><p>Hello RE.</p><p></p><p>I just wanted to let you know that I read your recent threads and that although a bit late, I am joining the wagons circling you. </p><p></p><p>Reading what you wrote your SO told you regarding "you are not alone anymore, I am here now" brought tears to my eyes as well (as another poster had commented.) <strong>Good for you</strong>. It is about time that after all of the years of shouldering so much by yourself you have this blessing in your life!!! So touching how you thanked him. Thank him from all of us too. We are glad that he is there for you.</p><p></p><p>In many, many, ways your difficult child daughter and my difficult child mother are similar. When my grandmother died 18 years ago my difficult child mother was left without her biggest enabler and because of what went down while grandma was dying and right after the funeral (cops but no arrests) I finally cut her off totally. Interesting thing is that since that time, difficult child mother has found a way all of these years to survive, without support from me or grandma. My sisters still help her a little (both did move out of state to get away from her though in attempt to limit her) but mostly she found ways to get a housing subsidy and other benefits all without working a day in the past 25 years and still being an addict. Although her standard of living is not luxury she has a steady income of social service benefits, decent housing and health insurance.</p><p></p><p> Like my difficult child mother, I hope that your daughter will find a way now that the other options are no longer available. Your daughter has had time to fact find by calling you and learning from you what you are willing to do for her. She has had time to learn that the roommate is no longer an option. She has lots of time in jail to think this through. Hopefully, she will have the survival instinct that my difficult child mother had once she knew there was no other option left. Like my mother, all your daughter has to worry about is herself and maybe the cats. Can you imagine just having to worry about only yourself?! Wow, wouldn't that be nice? It was very hard to cut my mother off 100% and there is still conflict with my sisters over this but both my mother and I "benefited" by me making that tough decision just as you and your daughter have both benefited by your tough choices over the past two years. I say "benefited" because there is no denying that these situations are sadly and tragically not the way any of us would want things to be. </p><p></p><p>You sound like you are doing great, learning and growing from this latest experience but I am sorry that you are going through this. Being that you are a fellow "meat in the mental illness/difficult child generational sandwich" sufferer as I am, I want to scream to the universe: "Enough already! RE has had enough of this! Leave her alone!" Surely there are some other aspects of your life you can work on and learn from right? </p><p></p><p>Hang in there. You rock.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>FHW</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="firehorsewoman, post: 621568, member: 15804"] Hello RE. I just wanted to let you know that I read your recent threads and that although a bit late, I am joining the wagons circling you. Reading what you wrote your SO told you regarding "you are not alone anymore, I am here now" brought tears to my eyes as well (as another poster had commented.) [B]Good for you[/B]. It is about time that after all of the years of shouldering so much by yourself you have this blessing in your life!!! So touching how you thanked him. Thank him from all of us too. We are glad that he is there for you. In many, many, ways your difficult child daughter and my difficult child mother are similar. When my grandmother died 18 years ago my difficult child mother was left without her biggest enabler and because of what went down while grandma was dying and right after the funeral (cops but no arrests) I finally cut her off totally. Interesting thing is that since that time, difficult child mother has found a way all of these years to survive, without support from me or grandma. My sisters still help her a little (both did move out of state to get away from her though in attempt to limit her) but mostly she found ways to get a housing subsidy and other benefits all without working a day in the past 25 years and still being an addict. Although her standard of living is not luxury she has a steady income of social service benefits, decent housing and health insurance. Like my difficult child mother, I hope that your daughter will find a way now that the other options are no longer available. Your daughter has had time to fact find by calling you and learning from you what you are willing to do for her. She has had time to learn that the roommate is no longer an option. She has lots of time in jail to think this through. Hopefully, she will have the survival instinct that my difficult child mother had once she knew there was no other option left. Like my mother, all your daughter has to worry about is herself and maybe the cats. Can you imagine just having to worry about only yourself?! Wow, wouldn't that be nice? It was very hard to cut my mother off 100% and there is still conflict with my sisters over this but both my mother and I "benefited" by me making that tough decision just as you and your daughter have both benefited by your tough choices over the past two years. I say "benefited" because there is no denying that these situations are sadly and tragically not the way any of us would want things to be. You sound like you are doing great, learning and growing from this latest experience but I am sorry that you are going through this. Being that you are a fellow "meat in the mental illness/difficult child generational sandwich" sufferer as I am, I want to scream to the universe: "Enough already! RE has had enough of this! Leave her alone!" Surely there are some other aspects of your life you can work on and learn from right? Hang in there. You rock. Hugs, FHW [/QUOTE]
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