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ADHD 27 Year Old Daughter - Narcissistic?
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<blockquote data-quote="newstart" data-source="post: 725377" data-attributes="member: 22416"><p>Somewhereovertherainbow, I know your heart is torn in a billion pieces trying to do the best thing, I know you love your daughter deeply but cannot take her abuse towards you. I know how hard and grieving it is to try and find balance with someone that is way out of balance.</p><p>I think us mom's know our children better than anyone and if you think your daughter is a narcissist and you know her better than anyone, then that is probably what she is.</p><p>I have a 35 year old daughter that breaks my heart to the core. I have given her my all, everything plus more. I get walked on, lied to and talked ugly to and about and slammed on social media. To say my daughter turns into a nightmare is an understatement. My daughter has been diagnoised with ADHD and bipolar. While manic she becomes a psychopath. I recently saw an advertisement for a book called 'an almost psychopath', not sure what that means, maybe a part time while manic psychopath but I will look into that book.. Recently I wrote my daughter a note and told her that I have to get distance from her for my own mental and spiritual health and that I can only communicate with her through text. It seems like she has an invisible plug and can suck my life force out of me from just talking. Our conversations are filled with her lies, lies about just anything!</p><p>We recently started talking and doing things together but I do feel drained after being around her. She said she was sorry for last bout of ugly behavior but I am getting close to retirement and I do not have the strength or even want to put up with her self made dramas on a regular basis. I almost had to evict her out of a home I bought because she quit paying rent but has stepped it into high gear and has started paying us back, after she realized she can live in that nice of a place for that amount of rent. She can be a slob and sometimes does not take out her garbage. I just do not understand how someone can't walk 5 feet to the curb to take out their garbage. Anyway I am slowly learning how to detatch. From this great site I have learned I did not cause it, I can not control it and I can not cure it. I have been studying how to detatch and I have to work on it everyday because in my head I keep saying 'but she is so ill' I have to let go of that. She knows right from wrong and she chooses to treat me horribly, I can not take the abuse and it is ending with me because she will continue as long as I allow it.</p><p>I feel bruised and used, awful and sick to my stomach when on the receiving end of my daughter. She can be nice sometimes and I fall back into a trap of some kind. I want so much to have a deep loving relationship with her but while manic it can not happen. This situation is beyond grief and I am going to have a happy life. 2018 will be a happy and joyful year. If you lived close I would have you over for a nice cup of tea and we would go for a walk and talk.. I would understand each word and each hurt. I wish you luck and love on this awful journey.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="newstart, post: 725377, member: 22416"] Somewhereovertherainbow, I know your heart is torn in a billion pieces trying to do the best thing, I know you love your daughter deeply but cannot take her abuse towards you. I know how hard and grieving it is to try and find balance with someone that is way out of balance. I think us mom's know our children better than anyone and if you think your daughter is a narcissist and you know her better than anyone, then that is probably what she is. I have a 35 year old daughter that breaks my heart to the core. I have given her my all, everything plus more. I get walked on, lied to and talked ugly to and about and slammed on social media. To say my daughter turns into a nightmare is an understatement. My daughter has been diagnoised with ADHD and bipolar. While manic she becomes a psychopath. I recently saw an advertisement for a book called 'an almost psychopath', not sure what that means, maybe a part time while manic psychopath but I will look into that book.. Recently I wrote my daughter a note and told her that I have to get distance from her for my own mental and spiritual health and that I can only communicate with her through text. It seems like she has an invisible plug and can suck my life force out of me from just talking. Our conversations are filled with her lies, lies about just anything! We recently started talking and doing things together but I do feel drained after being around her. She said she was sorry for last bout of ugly behavior but I am getting close to retirement and I do not have the strength or even want to put up with her self made dramas on a regular basis. I almost had to evict her out of a home I bought because she quit paying rent but has stepped it into high gear and has started paying us back, after she realized she can live in that nice of a place for that amount of rent. She can be a slob and sometimes does not take out her garbage. I just do not understand how someone can't walk 5 feet to the curb to take out their garbage. Anyway I am slowly learning how to detatch. From this great site I have learned I did not cause it, I can not control it and I can not cure it. I have been studying how to detatch and I have to work on it everyday because in my head I keep saying 'but she is so ill' I have to let go of that. She knows right from wrong and she chooses to treat me horribly, I can not take the abuse and it is ending with me because she will continue as long as I allow it. I feel bruised and used, awful and sick to my stomach when on the receiving end of my daughter. She can be nice sometimes and I fall back into a trap of some kind. I want so much to have a deep loving relationship with her but while manic it can not happen. This situation is beyond grief and I am going to have a happy life. 2018 will be a happy and joyful year. If you lived close I would have you over for a nice cup of tea and we would go for a walk and talk.. I would understand each word and each hurt. I wish you luck and love on this awful journey. [/QUOTE]
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