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Adult Borderline (BPD) and bipolar daughter pregnant?!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 758481" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi Alejandra and welcome back.</p><p></p><p>Gosh I applaud you and your daughter for how well you have been doing. I think RN gave you good advice to stay present. Really. You don't have any good information yet, and even if you did, how much control do you have, really? She will make her own decisions over which you may have some input if she asks you but ultimately the choices will be hers. I think now is the time to breathe deeply. </p><p></p><p>Now is the time to do more of what you have been doing so well. Boundaries!! You know what you can do. And you know what you should do. That is to keep very clear about your proper lane, (and hers) and enforce it. I think the more we are able to stay out of our adult children's business the more apt they are to pull on their strengths and to make good and responsible decisions. It seems clear to me that is what's been going on with you and your family. Your daughter has risen to the occasion, because you have allowed this.</p><p></p><p>Whatever reality there is (we don't yet know it) and whatever she decides, will be helped by practices you've already been successfully following, to let her live as she can and will, and staying focused upon your own well-being. That's what I think.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 758481, member: 18958"] Hi Alejandra and welcome back. Gosh I applaud you and your daughter for how well you have been doing. I think RN gave you good advice to stay present. Really. You don't have any good information yet, and even if you did, how much control do you have, really? She will make her own decisions over which you may have some input if she asks you but ultimately the choices will be hers. I think now is the time to breathe deeply. Now is the time to do more of what you have been doing so well. Boundaries!! You know what you can do. And you know what you should do. That is to keep very clear about your proper lane, (and hers) and enforce it. I think the more we are able to stay out of our adult children's business the more apt they are to pull on their strengths and to make good and responsible decisions. It seems clear to me that is what's been going on with you and your family. Your daughter has risen to the occasion, because you have allowed this. Whatever reality there is (we don't yet know it) and whatever she decides, will be helped by practices you've already been successfully following, to let her live as she can and will, and staying focused upon your own well-being. That's what I think. [/QUOTE]
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