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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 749656" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I don't think you need to move out, to do this. I think it is a question of boundaries. *Have you read the article on detachment on this website? If you look at the forum page you will find it. I think you can keep your interactions cordial and superficial, and spend more and more time in constructive activities away from them.</p><p></p><p>One thing I do is I take online courses, mostly through community colleges in my State. I'm already making plans for what I'll take next semester. (Another Drawing, 2D design and more Landscape Design.) I am also involved in two spiritual groups all online. Even if we have limitations in mobility, we can involve ourselves in the world. And I am patting my own back here--I am back to Pilates and walking. Is there some sort of therapeutic recreational program you can involve yourself in, that would help you feel better? Like at the YMCA? If you are interested, can you ask your doctor what you could do safely? Maybe your insurance would cover the cost. Sometimes these programs are very low cost or free. By the way. Lots of people have to use incontinence underwear. I have. My Mom did.</p><p></p><p>Now. I think that being with people is the best thing, but having a focus and goal, keeping busy, are important, too. If you have activities that you need to get to, that structure your time, this could give you a way to disengage from your sister and daughter, prioritizing your needs and obligations. For example, you would have a pretext to change your meal times, if you're eating together, for example, and eat alone. (I prefer this, actually.) With little things like this, you take charge of your time, your life and your interests. You are in the power position now. Not over them. But for yourself. By this kind of thing, and deciding to get involved in a group of some sort, whether 12 step or spiritual or volunteering, we make a life.</p><p></p><p>I am in a similar situation to you. We can encourage each other.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 749656, member: 18958"] I don't think you need to move out, to do this. I think it is a question of boundaries. *Have you read the article on detachment on this website? If you look at the forum page you will find it. I think you can keep your interactions cordial and superficial, and spend more and more time in constructive activities away from them. One thing I do is I take online courses, mostly through community colleges in my State. I'm already making plans for what I'll take next semester. (Another Drawing, 2D design and more Landscape Design.) I am also involved in two spiritual groups all online. Even if we have limitations in mobility, we can involve ourselves in the world. And I am patting my own back here--I am back to Pilates and walking. Is there some sort of therapeutic recreational program you can involve yourself in, that would help you feel better? Like at the YMCA? If you are interested, can you ask your doctor what you could do safely? Maybe your insurance would cover the cost. Sometimes these programs are very low cost or free. By the way. Lots of people have to use incontinence underwear. I have. My Mom did. Now. I think that being with people is the best thing, but having a focus and goal, keeping busy, are important, too. If you have activities that you need to get to, that structure your time, this could give you a way to disengage from your sister and daughter, prioritizing your needs and obligations. For example, you would have a pretext to change your meal times, if you're eating together, for example, and eat alone. (I prefer this, actually.) With little things like this, you take charge of your time, your life and your interests. You are in the power position now. Not over them. But for yourself. By this kind of thing, and deciding to get involved in a group of some sort, whether 12 step or spiritual or volunteering, we make a life. I am in a similar situation to you. We can encourage each other. [/QUOTE]
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