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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 721800" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Somehow in her care her son got cocaine in his system??</p><p></p><p>Your daughter is very sick, but unsafe to those who love her the most. There is no excuse for refusing help, stealing, and hurting her child. You in my opinion cant allow her to live with you since she steals. And if something happens to her, it will be 100% because of herself, not you. She refuses help so there is not one thing you can do for her. In your house or out of your house she is in danger because of the alcohol/drugs, the behavior which wont change just because she is under your roof and the anorexia. Are you sure its anorexia and not a lack of appetite due yo meth or cocaine? The seizures maybe ftom drugs?</p><p></p><p>I hope your grandson is safe. He should not be with her or alone with her. Nor should you. She is 35 years old and needs to do this on her own. You cant save her. There is nothing you can do that will help or hurt her. She is the only one who can save herself. To me, stealing is a dealbreaker. You never come into my home again if you can do that. Did you call the police?</p><p></p><p>I know this may sound harsh but the fact is you must protect yourself from her. You tried everything to help her and she did nothing to help herself. You need to take care of yourself now and only she can take care of herself. Or not. You cant force her to do the hard work of healing.</p><p></p><p>I have a good book for you to read. Try Codependent No More by Melody Beatty.</p><p></p><p>I know this is anguish, and that you may see her as that little girl that you have to save, but she is a fully grown woman now and legally you cant make her get help. Sometimes sheltering them and not calling the police harms them, although our hearts are in the right places. Their hearts must also be in the tight places or nothing will change. Do you see a therapist? Go to Al Anon? I highly recommend both for you.</p><p></p><p>Love and light.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 721800, member: 1550"] Somehow in her care her son got cocaine in his system?? Your daughter is very sick, but unsafe to those who love her the most. There is no excuse for refusing help, stealing, and hurting her child. You in my opinion cant allow her to live with you since she steals. And if something happens to her, it will be 100% because of herself, not you. She refuses help so there is not one thing you can do for her. In your house or out of your house she is in danger because of the alcohol/drugs, the behavior which wont change just because she is under your roof and the anorexia. Are you sure its anorexia and not a lack of appetite due yo meth or cocaine? The seizures maybe ftom drugs? I hope your grandson is safe. He should not be with her or alone with her. Nor should you. She is 35 years old and needs to do this on her own. You cant save her. There is nothing you can do that will help or hurt her. She is the only one who can save herself. To me, stealing is a dealbreaker. You never come into my home again if you can do that. Did you call the police? I know this may sound harsh but the fact is you must protect yourself from her. You tried everything to help her and she did nothing to help herself. You need to take care of yourself now and only she can take care of herself. Or not. You cant force her to do the hard work of healing. I have a good book for you to read. Try Codependent No More by Melody Beatty. I know this is anguish, and that you may see her as that little girl that you have to save, but she is a fully grown woman now and legally you cant make her get help. Sometimes sheltering them and not calling the police harms them, although our hearts are in the right places. Their hearts must also be in the tight places or nothing will change. Do you see a therapist? Go to Al Anon? I highly recommend both for you. Love and light. [/QUOTE]
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