SS, thank you so much. I absolutely believe that she is a sociopath or has antisocial or narcissistic personality disorder or whatever all that stuff means. If they truly cannot feel remorse than I wonder if they can love? I am not thinking of us so much as I am her two beautiful babies. I absolutely do believe that they CAN choose not to screw their parents. She chose us because it was easy. She knew we loved her, and she was very very cunning about not letting her true self show through to us or anyone else. Scary stuff.
I told my husband tonight that I think that we need to install security cameras in addition to the alarm system we already have. The closer the police get to confronting or arresting her the more nervous I am about her trying to contact us. And, I would predict that once we refuse to respond to her attempts she will be furious. We simply do not know what she is capable of at this point. She has never been violent but she has never faced what she will be facing in the months to come. She will most definitely blame us which is fine as long as she doesn't try to act on her anger.
Sounds like two of your three kids are doing fine. Have to admit that those are better results than mine. lol. Bless you.