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<blockquote data-quote="Halogen Lights" data-source="post: 724222" data-attributes="member: 22536"><p>Thank you. I've been feeling heart-broken lately with what I hear from the girls.</p><p></p><p>I do need to focus on my sons. </p><p></p><p>Also, when I reflect on the children's upbringing I remember singing, dancing, joking and having so much fun. When I am told it is my fault for "everything" I think to myself, "Bad choices are the reason for current events or, sometimes "good choices" with bad results that are no one's fault" I'm so tired of the weight of bearing the burden of blame for things that I don't even understand how they were an issue of my doing. I mean - I worked 2 and 3 jobs went to college to improve our lives - afforded quality homes and even a nanny for four years. And, I worked contracts for the government so I was earning good money for less hours to spend more time with the children growing up. </p><p></p><p>Why can't they see the work for them on my part? Everything was for the children in my life. And, yes, I've made mistakes but nothing grandiose that should cause ruination of our relationships. My parents were excellent people but they made mistakes - I'd never call my mother a c_nt or s_a_ch like my daughter called me last week. I'm just at a loss for words.</p><p></p><p>Folks hear these horrid stories and then meet me and like me and one daughter is fit to be tied that they do so.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for your advice. I'm hearing the same thing and understand I cannot fix what doesn't want to be mended.</p><p></p><p>Halogen</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Halogen Lights, post: 724222, member: 22536"] Thank you. I've been feeling heart-broken lately with what I hear from the girls. I do need to focus on my sons. Also, when I reflect on the children's upbringing I remember singing, dancing, joking and having so much fun. When I am told it is my fault for "everything" I think to myself, "Bad choices are the reason for current events or, sometimes "good choices" with bad results that are no one's fault" I'm so tired of the weight of bearing the burden of blame for things that I don't even understand how they were an issue of my doing. I mean - I worked 2 and 3 jobs went to college to improve our lives - afforded quality homes and even a nanny for four years. And, I worked contracts for the government so I was earning good money for less hours to spend more time with the children growing up. Why can't they see the work for them on my part? Everything was for the children in my life. And, yes, I've made mistakes but nothing grandiose that should cause ruination of our relationships. My parents were excellent people but they made mistakes - I'd never call my mother a c_nt or s_a_ch like my daughter called me last week. I'm just at a loss for words. Folks hear these horrid stories and then meet me and like me and one daughter is fit to be tied that they do so. Thank you for your advice. I'm hearing the same thing and understand I cannot fix what doesn't want to be mended. Halogen [/QUOTE]
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