Reply to thread

Message: <blockquote data-quote="jodibell" data-source="post: 765472" data-attributes="member: 33405"><p>Wow, I am so sad for you and for him. Substances and addictions can cause so many disabling traits. I have not seen many recover, although my nephew actually is doing pretty well after many years of getting kicked out. He went into treatment and they stepped him down with that other less addictive drug. It actually worked. He has been holding a job in a restaurant and his own apartment for at least 5 years now. On the other hand I have an incredibly deadbeat stepbrother who is 65 years old now, believe it or not, where it's just a bad situation who is getting away with living off my stepfather who enables him, and I find it disgusting because he doesn't have an addiction of any sort. He definitely has mental issues, and he's really scary - to the point my stepfather won't stand up to him, and he'd be afraid to evict him. He has done this his entire life, moving from family member's homes to friends' couches, and refusing to leave, until there's a big blowup after a year or two, and now he has nowhere left to go. He's one of those people you can see going postal and shooting up a place. He has barely held a job his entire life. He only works long enough to collect unemployment (I mean as soon as he passes the minimum number of weeks required to work), and then doesn't look for another job for 3-5 years, and then does the same thing again, although often he quits after a day or two. He can't get along with other people, if anyone tells him something they're trying to insult him, he has a scowl on his face perpetually, and is usually super quiet, barely talking, but then will explode and just start screaming and get up in your face for no reason. He demands my stepfather pay for everything, acts like the house is his which my sister actually paid for after our mother died, and we wanted to move him closer. I am single taking care of my grandkids, working, my own house, and helping him and taking care of his house. I have to mow his lawn and help him with chores, while my stepbrother sleeps until 3 or 4 p.m., offers to do nothing to help, and actually complains if you ask him, then he eats the food others buy, and leaves to go out on his motorcycle for a ride not returning until 2 in the morning, which he demanded my stepfather pay for the motorcycle. But he has another vehicle that runs, he drives, he has no disabilities (at least not physical <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />)  So he can work. But every job is beneath him. It might not be so bad if he wasn't a total jerk to everyone. He was only able to move back in after my mother died. She kicked him out multiple times, but my stepfather would nag to let him come back. She even got sick one time, and they found arsenic in her after he had visited to see his father, and we all wondered if he did something. He actually slept in their driveway in his truck for a while in winter using an extension cord from their house plugged into a heater because he said he refused to get a job or go to a shelter. A shelter was beneath him. He also has some social security he could collect from when he worked more in his younger years, but if someone else can pay for him, he's not spending his own money. I can barely look at him when I'm around him. He's so disgusting to me. I'm sorry, with how he treats others, no matter why he is the way he is, I have little sympathy.</p></blockquote><p></p>

Verification