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Adult son back in jail for the nth time
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<blockquote data-quote="Sister's Keeper" data-source="post: 680091" data-attributes="member: 20051"><p>Isn't it funny how they figure it all out? The sentences, the good time, the work time. I wish they were that smart in their every day choices. It's funny Sis told me the same thing, "I will only do 18 months max." It was a flat sentence, so she knows that there will be no parole hanging over her to violate after that. </p><p></p><p>Sis gets jail "jobs" quickly because she is well known to them, and the jail knows that she is never a problem prisoner They are quick to offer because she is reliable. How ironic is that?</p><p></p><p>I don't have her kids because of the prison situation, unfortunately. Sadly both she and their father are addicts. They are always some form of homeless. There is a long story, and 3 different versions of it, but the 2 boys were in the custody of Baby Daddy's grandmother. I think the long and short of it was they were using in Granny's house and she put them out and told them they sign the boys over to her or she calls DYFS. So, Sis gets pregnant with Little Girl, my niece, and she claims it's the same Baby Daddy, but she doesn't look like the boys, and I know how Sis earns drug money.... I digress... well, Little Girl is born addicted, and DYFS wants to put her in foster care. Granny won't take her, because, rightly so, she feels she can't handle an infant, and especially not one that is in withdrawal. So I agree to take her, and in talking with granny I agree to take the boys, too, so everyone is together. (Sis and I were separated when I was in 3rd grade, she in 2nd) The kids have never been abused (other than the drug use while pregnant) Weirdly, neither of the boys were born with drugs in their system. How she managed that, I don't know. It's near a miracle.</p><p></p><p>So, here we all are. Just one big mess. I have legal custody of all 3. It's been 4 years and Sis has not seen them since Little Girl was released from NICU. Baby Daddy has been gone with the wind for a few years ago. Last anyone heard he was in jail in a different county. </p><p></p><p>So there was a lot of crap and excuses leading up to the "not ready to stop getting high" statement about why she couldn't go to treatment, but, that is the truth of it, really. It was the slap in the face that I needed to open my eyes that she is not getting clean. She will die an addict, probably sooner than later. We are beginning the process of legally adopting the kids. </p><p></p><p>I wish that they were as motivated out of jail as they are in.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sister's Keeper, post: 680091, member: 20051"] Isn't it funny how they figure it all out? The sentences, the good time, the work time. I wish they were that smart in their every day choices. It's funny Sis told me the same thing, "I will only do 18 months max." It was a flat sentence, so she knows that there will be no parole hanging over her to violate after that. Sis gets jail "jobs" quickly because she is well known to them, and the jail knows that she is never a problem prisoner They are quick to offer because she is reliable. How ironic is that? I don't have her kids because of the prison situation, unfortunately. Sadly both she and their father are addicts. They are always some form of homeless. There is a long story, and 3 different versions of it, but the 2 boys were in the custody of Baby Daddy's grandmother. I think the long and short of it was they were using in Granny's house and she put them out and told them they sign the boys over to her or she calls DYFS. So, Sis gets pregnant with Little Girl, my niece, and she claims it's the same Baby Daddy, but she doesn't look like the boys, and I know how Sis earns drug money.... I digress... well, Little Girl is born addicted, and DYFS wants to put her in foster care. Granny won't take her, because, rightly so, she feels she can't handle an infant, and especially not one that is in withdrawal. So I agree to take her, and in talking with granny I agree to take the boys, too, so everyone is together. (Sis and I were separated when I was in 3rd grade, she in 2nd) The kids have never been abused (other than the drug use while pregnant) Weirdly, neither of the boys were born with drugs in their system. How she managed that, I don't know. It's near a miracle. So, here we all are. Just one big mess. I have legal custody of all 3. It's been 4 years and Sis has not seen them since Little Girl was released from NICU. Baby Daddy has been gone with the wind for a few years ago. Last anyone heard he was in jail in a different county. So there was a lot of crap and excuses leading up to the "not ready to stop getting high" statement about why she couldn't go to treatment, but, that is the truth of it, really. It was the slap in the face that I needed to open my eyes that she is not getting clean. She will die an addict, probably sooner than later. We are beginning the process of legally adopting the kids. I wish that they were as motivated out of jail as they are in. [/QUOTE]
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