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Adult son living at home breaking house rules
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 764180" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>You answered your own question. To paraphrase: The rules are for us, not for him. When I watch and wait, he gets worse. </p><p></p><p>I feel you need to factor yourself and your welfare into the equation. If you sacrifice yourself to him you will be eaten up alive. He has already shown that the arrangement doesn't work for him or you. </p><p></p><p>He is gaslighting you. Making you feel you're responsible to give him hothouse conditions, praise, encouragement, and support, while he uses. This is ridiculous. And dangerous. </p><p></p><p>He needs to leave. You are not a drug treatment program. You are not responsible for helping him be cured. That is entirely up to him. He is externalizing responsibility onto you. This will only continue and worsen.</p><p></p><p>I agree with every word New Leaf writes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 764180, member: 18958"] You answered your own question. To paraphrase: The rules are for us, not for him. When I watch and wait, he gets worse. I feel you need to factor yourself and your welfare into the equation. If you sacrifice yourself to him you will be eaten up alive. He has already shown that the arrangement doesn't work for him or you. He is gaslighting you. Making you feel you're responsible to give him hothouse conditions, praise, encouragement, and support, while he uses. This is ridiculous. And dangerous. He needs to leave. You are not a drug treatment program. You are not responsible for helping him be cured. That is entirely up to him. He is externalizing responsibility onto you. This will only continue and worsen. I agree with every word New Leaf writes. [/QUOTE]
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