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<blockquote data-quote="AddictionSucks123" data-source="post: 764181" data-attributes="member: 31168"><p>Hi Copa, Thank you. </p><p></p><p>Husband and I are learning. We still want to inject kindness with him as he is and always have been very fragile. </p><p></p><p>That said, yes, he can not be in this house, his childhood home, as it is not conducive to his mental health. This is the only house he has ever known. This is the house, where there was a suicide attempt (not planned, impulsive) at 15 years old, this is the house where fights have happened, this is the house he was bedbound for 6 months 98% of the time where he couldn't hear or see anything due to deteriorating symptoms, then the horrible pure thought Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and this is the house he came to after getting drunk and high. This is the house, where I always made home made food and worked on building his health. </p><p></p><p>I am sure he is also suffering from PTSD from that illness. I can understand, in some ways, why he could turn to alcohol and drugs to cope. So many people do for less than what he has suffered through. And we tried to get him mental health help. I have attended NAMI classes, he has gone to various psychiatrists and therapists since he was a child and they have never helped, except for the exposure therapy for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Our mental health help honestly sucks, big time. The renowned psychologist at Stanford university has remarked recently, that our way of handling mental health aid is not effective. Talk therapy without immediate action assistance, CBT, medication, none of them have worked for him. </p><p></p><p>Son did get a room to rent with a nice older lady who also has another lady that is renting in the house. I think this will at least give him some stability, as getting a motel room daily was adding to his already unstable and anxious mind set. Prior to knowing he got this room to rent, he went on an weekend bender. </p><p></p><p>So far, he has been clean for 4 days as he has been suffering from the excess use of Meth and Cocaine all weekend long. Some say, it is the natural consequences of his actions, and not delaying it, may help him. We have learned that we can't make the actions for him and that he has to arrive at certain conclusions himself. </p><p></p><p>Husband and I are working to spend better quality time for ourselves, with some local travel in mind and we also attend online group support weekly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AddictionSucks123, post: 764181, member: 31168"] Hi Copa, Thank you. Husband and I are learning. We still want to inject kindness with him as he is and always have been very fragile. That said, yes, he can not be in this house, his childhood home, as it is not conducive to his mental health. This is the only house he has ever known. This is the house, where there was a suicide attempt (not planned, impulsive) at 15 years old, this is the house where fights have happened, this is the house he was bedbound for 6 months 98% of the time where he couldn't hear or see anything due to deteriorating symptoms, then the horrible pure thought Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and this is the house he came to after getting drunk and high. This is the house, where I always made home made food and worked on building his health. I am sure he is also suffering from PTSD from that illness. I can understand, in some ways, why he could turn to alcohol and drugs to cope. So many people do for less than what he has suffered through. And we tried to get him mental health help. I have attended NAMI classes, he has gone to various psychiatrists and therapists since he was a child and they have never helped, except for the exposure therapy for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Our mental health help honestly sucks, big time. The renowned psychologist at Stanford university has remarked recently, that our way of handling mental health aid is not effective. Talk therapy without immediate action assistance, CBT, medication, none of them have worked for him. Son did get a room to rent with a nice older lady who also has another lady that is renting in the house. I think this will at least give him some stability, as getting a motel room daily was adding to his already unstable and anxious mind set. Prior to knowing he got this room to rent, he went on an weekend bender. So far, he has been clean for 4 days as he has been suffering from the excess use of Meth and Cocaine all weekend long. Some say, it is the natural consequences of his actions, and not delaying it, may help him. We have learned that we can't make the actions for him and that he has to arrive at certain conclusions himself. Husband and I are working to spend better quality time for ourselves, with some local travel in mind and we also attend online group support weekly. [/QUOTE]
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