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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 750216" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>My difficult child 1 (DC1) doesn't want to take care of his belongings/surroundings. </p><p></p><p>He recently had to move back home after graduating with his Bachelor's.</p><p></p><p>I take the attitude that the cleanliness of his room is his business (as long as it isn't an issue with bugs etc) to the extent of daily living. However, because he lives in my house, at the beginning of each month, I make him wash his sheets, remove all trash, dust, sweep the floor. Every other month mop the floor .Last month, the window. He balked at first, and was adamant he was not mopping. I explained that the floors have to be mopped once a month (I do mine once a week, but I am trying not to be too controlling and allow for other people's varying ideas of cleanliness) , so he could either do it himself or pay me to do it. Because he has not found work, yet, he opted to do it himself. </p><p></p><p>This last time, he told me after he got his room done that he likes the structure . So maybe something is starting to sink in.</p><p></p><p>At college, he never washed his sheets the whole semester, and the room was atrocious. He doesn't fold his clothes here at home, either, but I leave that alone , because it is him who walks around with wrinkled clothing.</p><p></p><p>We gave him a car to use at school and the vehicle was completely trashed out .He blamed his friends. So last summer when he had gotten into a small accident but didn't tell us and didn't seem to think it should get fixed (it was OUR car!), We signed the car over to him, and told him all expenses regarding the car were now on him. He had a friend drive the car while they were both high , and friend totaled the car. Luckily, nobody was hurt. So DC1 had to move back home after graduation, because he had no car and no money. We refuse to help him with another car.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 750216, member: 24254"] My difficult child 1 (DC1) doesn't want to take care of his belongings/surroundings. He recently had to move back home after graduating with his Bachelor's. I take the attitude that the cleanliness of his room is his business (as long as it isn't an issue with bugs etc) to the extent of daily living. However, because he lives in my house, at the beginning of each month, I make him wash his sheets, remove all trash, dust, sweep the floor. Every other month mop the floor .Last month, the window. He balked at first, and was adamant he was not mopping. I explained that the floors have to be mopped once a month (I do mine once a week, but I am trying not to be too controlling and allow for other people's varying ideas of cleanliness) , so he could either do it himself or pay me to do it. Because he has not found work, yet, he opted to do it himself. This last time, he told me after he got his room done that he likes the structure . So maybe something is starting to sink in. At college, he never washed his sheets the whole semester, and the room was atrocious. He doesn't fold his clothes here at home, either, but I leave that alone , because it is him who walks around with wrinkled clothing. We gave him a car to use at school and the vehicle was completely trashed out .He blamed his friends. So last summer when he had gotten into a small accident but didn't tell us and didn't seem to think it should get fixed (it was OUR car!), We signed the car over to him, and told him all expenses regarding the car were now on him. He had a friend drive the car while they were both high , and friend totaled the car. Luckily, nobody was hurt. So DC1 had to move back home after graduation, because he had no car and no money. We refuse to help him with another car. [/QUOTE]
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