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I would buy the book Walking on Eggshells. It's how to best live with a borderline personality. She can get help but it requires her compliance and very hard work and a real willingness to change. If not, borderlines are very much I love you today/I hate you tomorrow/I may even hurt you/ I may buy you a present. Up and down. Nice and mean. My mom and sister did this to me. It's very WTF?????? You can't depend on them to love you tomorrow or talk to you tomorrow even if they love you today. My sister used to call the cops on me to punish me. It didn't work but she NEVER stopped doing it when she was mad at me. So please be on defense all the time. I am sad for you. My therapist has always believed my mom was borderline and thinks my sister has strong traits too. Unfortunately when they are not happy with you they can over the top punish you and it can be refusing to talk to you for months or years to stealing to hitting you to calling the cops on you when there is no reason. In my case, I finally had to end sibling relationship but don't think I could do that to a child.

Hugs!