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<blockquote data-quote="rush" data-source="post: 609395" data-attributes="member: 16988"><p>Thanks for listening and the great advice. I know I need to detach, but I don't know how to do that while she is in the same house as me. I want her out of the house, the sooner the better, but I also don't want her on the street.</p><p></p><p>To clarify two things, my daughter did not steal a car. She moved away months ago in her own car. While she was far away, her car was stolen. We kept up the insurance on it, we filed a claim, (the police out there recovered the car), the insurance company totaled the car and sent us a check for the car.</p><p></p><p>While I don't know what she did while she was 700 miles away, I don't think drugs are involved since she has been home. Even her stealing our credit cards, the things she bought or attempted to buy were clothing ( since all hers was in her car which was stolen out there), and personal hygiene stuff. I am not condoning her stealing our credit card, but there was no attempt to get cash. She is here at home almost all the time, and there are no drugs here in this house for her to get. She doesn't behave as someone who is on drugs. She has never been in trouble with the law, nor in a group home or hospital ( with the exception of a month ago when she was far away).</p><p></p><p>I gave her a month to get a job (that's why I got her a tracphone). I am sticking to that date. I told her I want her in her own place soon. As bad as she is here at home, I honestly think if she can get a job and her own place, she would be a whole lot better. If she stays on her medications, you would never know she was bipolar.</p><p></p><p>So, the consensus is I should not replace her stolen car with the insurance money? I just thought it would be easier for her to get back and forth to job hunting and eventually a job with one. I see your point though, as part of me thought that with a car she may just run around all the time, or take off far away again. I assure you, if she goes far away again and gets in a fix, I will NOT be bailing her out.</p><p></p><p>I will keep you all posted! Thank you so much for listening!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rush, post: 609395, member: 16988"] Thanks for listening and the great advice. I know I need to detach, but I don't know how to do that while she is in the same house as me. I want her out of the house, the sooner the better, but I also don't want her on the street. To clarify two things, my daughter did not steal a car. She moved away months ago in her own car. While she was far away, her car was stolen. We kept up the insurance on it, we filed a claim, (the police out there recovered the car), the insurance company totaled the car and sent us a check for the car. While I don't know what she did while she was 700 miles away, I don't think drugs are involved since she has been home. Even her stealing our credit cards, the things she bought or attempted to buy were clothing ( since all hers was in her car which was stolen out there), and personal hygiene stuff. I am not condoning her stealing our credit card, but there was no attempt to get cash. She is here at home almost all the time, and there are no drugs here in this house for her to get. She doesn't behave as someone who is on drugs. She has never been in trouble with the law, nor in a group home or hospital ( with the exception of a month ago when she was far away). I gave her a month to get a job (that's why I got her a tracphone). I am sticking to that date. I told her I want her in her own place soon. As bad as she is here at home, I honestly think if she can get a job and her own place, she would be a whole lot better. If she stays on her medications, you would never know she was bipolar. So, the consensus is I should not replace her stolen car with the insurance money? I just thought it would be easier for her to get back and forth to job hunting and eventually a job with one. I see your point though, as part of me thought that with a car she may just run around all the time, or take off far away again. I assure you, if she goes far away again and gets in a fix, I will NOT be bailing her out. I will keep you all posted! Thank you so much for listening! [/QUOTE]
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