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<blockquote data-quote="rush" data-source="post: 612103" data-attributes="member: 16988"><p>Hi everyone!</p><p>Thanks for listening and asking about my daughter.</p><p></p><p>Here's the latest. About a month ago, she left and went to a friends house here in town for about 5 days. When I went to pick her up, this friends mom said she wouldn't help around the house, she ate all her food up, and the mother stated she didn't invite her to stay. Her child just brought my daughter in and begged mom to let her stay. This mother stated she couldn't afford to feed another person. I told her thank you for letting her stay and I certainly understood as we were having the same problems at home.</p><p></p><p>So on the way home, I explained the rules of the house again. Clean up your own messes, no eating in your room, keep your room and bathroom clean, don't eat up all the groceries, get a job, and be respectful of your parents. She said she could live by those rules.</p><p></p><p>She got a job last week. She is working about 40 hours a week. After she got the job, my husband and I replaced her car (the one that was stolen and the insurance paid us for), for we both work too, and wouldn't be able to drive her back and forth. She loves the job, hasn't missed a day yet. I am so proud of her for that.</p><p></p><p>However, while she has improved in cleaning up in the kitchen, she still won't clean up her room or bathroom. The bathroom really preturbs me because it is in the hallway and guests use it. She still eats in her room and most of the glasses end up in there and I have to argue with her to bring the dishes out so they can be washed. She still hogs the groceries and we have resorted to locking some of the food up in our room and some locked up in a small refrigerator in the garage.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I want her to find her own place. Should I give her a deadline to move out now that she is working? I can't stand living in my own home having to lock doors and lock up food so she doesn't take everything. This is really affecting my marriage as my husband is now angry all the time, won't talk to me a lot of times. Suggestions? </p><p>Thanks for all your help and thanks for this site! It really helps!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rush, post: 612103, member: 16988"] Hi everyone! Thanks for listening and asking about my daughter. Here's the latest. About a month ago, she left and went to a friends house here in town for about 5 days. When I went to pick her up, this friends mom said she wouldn't help around the house, she ate all her food up, and the mother stated she didn't invite her to stay. Her child just brought my daughter in and begged mom to let her stay. This mother stated she couldn't afford to feed another person. I told her thank you for letting her stay and I certainly understood as we were having the same problems at home. So on the way home, I explained the rules of the house again. Clean up your own messes, no eating in your room, keep your room and bathroom clean, don't eat up all the groceries, get a job, and be respectful of your parents. She said she could live by those rules. She got a job last week. She is working about 40 hours a week. After she got the job, my husband and I replaced her car (the one that was stolen and the insurance paid us for), for we both work too, and wouldn't be able to drive her back and forth. She loves the job, hasn't missed a day yet. I am so proud of her for that. However, while she has improved in cleaning up in the kitchen, she still won't clean up her room or bathroom. The bathroom really preturbs me because it is in the hallway and guests use it. She still eats in her room and most of the glasses end up in there and I have to argue with her to bring the dishes out so they can be washed. She still hogs the groceries and we have resorted to locking some of the food up in our room and some locked up in a small refrigerator in the garage. My husband and I want her to find her own place. Should I give her a deadline to move out now that she is working? I can't stand living in my own home having to lock doors and lock up food so she doesn't take everything. This is really affecting my marriage as my husband is now angry all the time, won't talk to me a lot of times. Suggestions? Thanks for all your help and thanks for this site! It really helps! [/QUOTE]
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