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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 612142"><p>Rush...I feel for you. My husband and I adopted an infant girl who showed signs of bipolar illness VERY young. Things only worsened from there. And, yes, it was hard on our marriage and our finances (and my health too!)</p><p>Although we were always close, we had to see a counselor at times. And I also had to see a therapist at times as well. It really turned our lives upside down.</p><p>Over the years, I have met others locally in similar circumstances as myself and I was just telling someone today, I am the only one still married and this is very fortunate.</p><p>I was happily surprised that your daughter found a job and that she likes it, etc. Yes, I would say that you probably should give her a deadline about moving out. She is not following all the rules and is unlikely to do so. If you wish, you might give her a deposit for an apartment and continue paying for her therapy, medications and maybe auto insurance. But, I would suggest you do your best to move her out and put limits/boundaries on your help to/for her. Consider seeing a counselor with your spouse, esp. if you are arguing and don't see light at the end of the tunnel. It is important to be calm and a united front, etc. Like others have said, this is nothing you have done, but part of her illness and the entire thing is unjust and difficult (to say the least). But, you must detach, gather your strength and protect yourself and your marriage and move forward. Believe me, I/we understand. This is a painful and cruel thing we are forced to deal with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 612142"] Rush...I feel for you. My husband and I adopted an infant girl who showed signs of bipolar illness VERY young. Things only worsened from there. And, yes, it was hard on our marriage and our finances (and my health too!) Although we were always close, we had to see a counselor at times. And I also had to see a therapist at times as well. It really turned our lives upside down. Over the years, I have met others locally in similar circumstances as myself and I was just telling someone today, I am the only one still married and this is very fortunate. I was happily surprised that your daughter found a job and that she likes it, etc. Yes, I would say that you probably should give her a deadline about moving out. She is not following all the rules and is unlikely to do so. If you wish, you might give her a deposit for an apartment and continue paying for her therapy, medications and maybe auto insurance. But, I would suggest you do your best to move her out and put limits/boundaries on your help to/for her. Consider seeing a counselor with your spouse, esp. if you are arguing and don't see light at the end of the tunnel. It is important to be calm and a united front, etc. Like others have said, this is nothing you have done, but part of her illness and the entire thing is unjust and difficult (to say the least). But, you must detach, gather your strength and protect yourself and your marriage and move forward. Believe me, I/we understand. This is a painful and cruel thing we are forced to deal with. [/QUOTE]
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