Excellent post, Susiestar.
difficult child son posted today that he has not been working, and that there are a host of other problems, as well. I needed to be reminded of all the things you've posted to Rush, too. Even, and maybe especially, the part about the grands.
You are right. It is the right and loving thing to expect the kids to figure it out for themselves, as every adult must do, and to accept their choice to live poor for what it is: their choice.
Hard to do that, though.
But we have pulled that child out of mess after mess, and somehow, he never does quite manage to create a decent lifestyle for himself and his family. So much of being able to admit that, for good or for bad, the kids are doing what they want to has to do with where we are in our own process.
Cedar
