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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 747755" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>He's 30 years old, he's an adult and needs to solve his own problems. The last time my daughter lived with (maybe 7 or 8 years ago) she had just been released from inpatient mental health treatment and had a 2-year-old daughter. I gave her 2 weeks to find a job and then she had to pay me 30% of whatever she made as her contribution to the household. We also had rules laid out that I printed and had her sign. She made it a few months, then started breaking my rules so I threw her out. She floundered for a bit but got things somewhat figured out. She struggles with alcohol and has had her ups and downs with that but she has maintained employment and housing for the last 5 years and can pay her bills. She is now expecting her 2nd child, which I am not thrilled about, but it's her choice. She has also gotten herself into community college, finished one semester on the dean's list and is working on her second semester. If I had let her use me as a crutch I doubt she would have been able to accomplish what she has on her own. It also gives her a sense of pride (and rightly so) that she has done all of this. Now when she calls upset about something I remind her how far she has come and it helps her feel better. I know how hard this is, especially with children involved, but you need to cut the cord and focus on giving yourself a healthy, happy life. Sending peace to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 747755, member: 11235"] He's 30 years old, he's an adult and needs to solve his own problems. The last time my daughter lived with (maybe 7 or 8 years ago) she had just been released from inpatient mental health treatment and had a 2-year-old daughter. I gave her 2 weeks to find a job and then she had to pay me 30% of whatever she made as her contribution to the household. We also had rules laid out that I printed and had her sign. She made it a few months, then started breaking my rules so I threw her out. She floundered for a bit but got things somewhat figured out. She struggles with alcohol and has had her ups and downs with that but she has maintained employment and housing for the last 5 years and can pay her bills. She is now expecting her 2nd child, which I am not thrilled about, but it's her choice. She has also gotten herself into community college, finished one semester on the dean's list and is working on her second semester. If I had let her use me as a crutch I doubt she would have been able to accomplish what she has on her own. It also gives her a sense of pride (and rightly so) that she has done all of this. Now when she calls upset about something I remind her how far she has come and it helps her feel better. I know how hard this is, especially with children involved, but you need to cut the cord and focus on giving yourself a healthy, happy life. Sending peace to you. [/QUOTE]
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