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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 630320" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I would send the private message.</p><p></p><p>Understanding that you probably cannot help this young man, I would send it, anyway.</p><p> </p><p>Given the extreme thinness, he is most likely addicted. Your post may not turn his life around. But your post may echo something good from his past, from a time when he might have made a different choice. </p><p></p><p>Given your concern for this young man, I think the post would be appropriate. You are a mom. That is what we do. If he is in your town, if there are safety issues, then I would say "no".</p><p></p><p>Otherwise, I think a private message would be appropriate.</p><p></p><p>I do understand your husband's point of view. My husband would say the same.</p><p></p><p>There have been people from my children's pasts that I have private messaged with. It can become a weird kind of "I am trying so hard" "You can do it" while the person continues that downhill roll, lying to you the whole time. It can also mean a connection between your difficult child and a person who is absolutely walking the wrong path.</p><p></p><p>Nonetheless, I would do it.</p><p></p><p>It has not made a measurable difference, for those I have attempted to interact with.</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry, Albatross. It is heartbreaking to see what becomes of those kids our own children were close to. </p><p></p><p>Oh, wait a minute.</p><p></p><p>Most of the kids my difficult children grew up with are doing just fine. It's MY kids who are running around with freshly shaved heads (difficult child daughter) and shooting their mouths off about how much I owe them (difficult child son).</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>P.S. I like what MWM had to say, too. That would have been the other thing I thought you should do. I wasn't sure which way I thought was best so, though I wrote this last night, I waited to post it until I had some time to think.</p><p></p><p>Ultimately, it is always right to try to make a difference, even just a little difference.</p><p></p><p>You know better than to give money, and there are certain other difficult child traps you are not going to fall into.</p><p></p><p>I would private message him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 630320, member: 17461"] I would send the private message. Understanding that you probably cannot help this young man, I would send it, anyway. Given the extreme thinness, he is most likely addicted. Your post may not turn his life around. But your post may echo something good from his past, from a time when he might have made a different choice. Given your concern for this young man, I think the post would be appropriate. You are a mom. That is what we do. If he is in your town, if there are safety issues, then I would say "no". Otherwise, I think a private message would be appropriate. I do understand your husband's point of view. My husband would say the same. There have been people from my children's pasts that I have private messaged with. It can become a weird kind of "I am trying so hard" "You can do it" while the person continues that downhill roll, lying to you the whole time. It can also mean a connection between your difficult child and a person who is absolutely walking the wrong path. Nonetheless, I would do it. It has not made a measurable difference, for those I have attempted to interact with. I'm so sorry, Albatross. It is heartbreaking to see what becomes of those kids our own children were close to. Oh, wait a minute. Most of the kids my difficult children grew up with are doing just fine. It's MY kids who are running around with freshly shaved heads (difficult child daughter) and shooting their mouths off about how much I owe them (difficult child son). :O) Cedar P.S. I like what MWM had to say, too. That would have been the other thing I thought you should do. I wasn't sure which way I thought was best so, though I wrote this last night, I waited to post it until I had some time to think. Ultimately, it is always right to try to make a difference, even just a little difference. You know better than to give money, and there are certain other difficult child traps you are not going to fall into. I would private message him. [/QUOTE]
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