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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 762311" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I believe your daughter loves you very, very much. I also believe she knows who you are. I have a very hard time with the very same things that you do. My son is homeless much of the time. He shows it. He wears a ragged hoody. He looks shabby at best. It breaks my heart. I have a very difficult time accepting him how he is, too. I fight it, to the extent that I can't bear to be around him. The pain is too great so I fight against the reality of what is. I pretend to myself that he can control how he is, that he can choose to do differently when there is no indication at all that this is the case. If I don't see him, I don't have to face it.</p><p></p><p>What I am saying here is that I struggle in the exact same ways as do you. </p><p>Sooo Tired, you are very, very hard on yourself. </p><p></p><p>What you and your daughter are showing is that there is hope and redemption for all of us. Maybe even me and my son. You give me hope. All I am saying is that I believe the reservoir of love between you and your daughter is so great and so deep, that there is room for humanity, for imperfection. You don't need to be perfect. Nor does she. With all of the changes she has made, she may go there on her own. Teeth can be fixed. Houses can be cleaned. The love is there. Rest in it! I will try too. I am afraid too. I am afraid my son will die, and then, so will I.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 762311, member: 18958"] I believe your daughter loves you very, very much. I also believe she knows who you are. I have a very hard time with the very same things that you do. My son is homeless much of the time. He shows it. He wears a ragged hoody. He looks shabby at best. It breaks my heart. I have a very difficult time accepting him how he is, too. I fight it, to the extent that I can't bear to be around him. The pain is too great so I fight against the reality of what is. I pretend to myself that he can control how he is, that he can choose to do differently when there is no indication at all that this is the case. If I don't see him, I don't have to face it. What I am saying here is that I struggle in the exact same ways as do you. Sooo Tired, you are very, very hard on yourself. What you and your daughter are showing is that there is hope and redemption for all of us. Maybe even me and my son. You give me hope. All I am saying is that I believe the reservoir of love between you and your daughter is so great and so deep, that there is room for humanity, for imperfection. You don't need to be perfect. Nor does she. With all of the changes she has made, she may go there on her own. Teeth can be fixed. Houses can be cleaned. The love is there. Rest in it! I will try too. I am afraid too. I am afraid my son will die, and then, so will I. [/QUOTE]
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