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Advice sought for difficult child who is going out of his way to be disrespectful and hateful.
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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 559689" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I think if he disrespects you in your home, you tell him it's time to leave. Period. Be sure you husband is ready to back you up on this (sure hope he turns down the ice cream that wasn't meant for you!) . If your difficult child disrespects you on the phone, you hang up. If he replies to a text with disrespect, stop texting him. I agree with slsh that he shouldn't just be able to "drop by," if he needs to pick something up, he'll have to pre-arrange it. </p><p></p><p>Hard as it is, I'd also try to NOT react emotionally when he treats you poorly. in my opinion that's what he wants. Your only reaction should be to shut it down immediately and tell him it's time to go. I read years ago that a good way to treat out of control teenagers is with the attitude of a "dispassionate cop." Think of yourself of an unrelated police officer that's dealing with someone ranting and raving at them. Cops don't react emotionally, they don't allow themselves to be hurt by the insults and threats being hurled at them, they simply deal with the situation with authority and and shut it down/dole out consequences. That's got to be your role in situations like this, unfortunately. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 559689, member: 1157"] I think if he disrespects you in your home, you tell him it's time to leave. Period. Be sure you husband is ready to back you up on this (sure hope he turns down the ice cream that wasn't meant for you!) . If your difficult child disrespects you on the phone, you hang up. If he replies to a text with disrespect, stop texting him. I agree with slsh that he shouldn't just be able to "drop by," if he needs to pick something up, he'll have to pre-arrange it. Hard as it is, I'd also try to NOT react emotionally when he treats you poorly. in my opinion that's what he wants. Your only reaction should be to shut it down immediately and tell him it's time to go. I read years ago that a good way to treat out of control teenagers is with the attitude of a "dispassionate cop." Think of yourself of an unrelated police officer that's dealing with someone ranting and raving at them. Cops don't react emotionally, they don't allow themselves to be hurt by the insults and threats being hurled at them, they simply deal with the situation with authority and and shut it down/dole out consequences. That's got to be your role in situations like this, unfortunately. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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