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Advice sought for difficult child who is going out of his way to be disrespectful and hateful.
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 560430" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I'm glad to hear that he is really out of the house. I would probably try to get his stuff completely out of the house as well. There's just too much opportunity for things to get out of hand. </p><p></p><p>I think that one of the hardest things we PE parents have to do is to clean out the difficult child's room after they are gone. It really opens our eyes as to what they have been thinking and doing that we either didn't know about or chose not to see. When M left, I gathered his stuff into three separate piles - Things that were his and he needed (clothing, personal needs, books); Things that were his and he didn't need (old school-work, video games, toys he no longer played with); and things that were ours (you wouldn't BELIEVE the things he had claimed as his own). Then I sorted each pile into useable and trash. I gave him his stuff and the rest went. Now, I have to say that the video games did not go to him because he was badly addicted to it and it caused depression and violence in him. That may not be so for your son. But his room was not ever his room again, and if he came to our house it would be because he wanted to, not on the pretense that he needed something and I had to follow him around or check all the drawers before he left.</p><p></p><p>He showed up at our house again with some grown woman about two years later demanding his bedroom furniture (!) so he could move into an apartment. She tried to bully her way into the house, and I gave her 10 seconds to get out before I called the police on her for robbery. I told him that I'd be happy to give him some things for an apartment if he would call and ask me to set some things aside, but not <em>that </em>day.</p><p></p><p>Believe me, there's a sucker born every minute, and our kids can find them like they have a heat seeking missile.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 560430, member: 99"] I'm glad to hear that he is really out of the house. I would probably try to get his stuff completely out of the house as well. There's just too much opportunity for things to get out of hand. I think that one of the hardest things we PE parents have to do is to clean out the difficult child's room after they are gone. It really opens our eyes as to what they have been thinking and doing that we either didn't know about or chose not to see. When M left, I gathered his stuff into three separate piles - Things that were his and he needed (clothing, personal needs, books); Things that were his and he didn't need (old school-work, video games, toys he no longer played with); and things that were ours (you wouldn't BELIEVE the things he had claimed as his own). Then I sorted each pile into useable and trash. I gave him his stuff and the rest went. Now, I have to say that the video games did not go to him because he was badly addicted to it and it caused depression and violence in him. That may not be so for your son. But his room was not ever his room again, and if he came to our house it would be because he wanted to, not on the pretense that he needed something and I had to follow him around or check all the drawers before he left. He showed up at our house again with some grown woman about two years later demanding his bedroom furniture (!) so he could move into an apartment. She tried to bully her way into the house, and I gave her 10 seconds to get out before I called the police on her for robbery. I told him that I'd be happy to give him some things for an apartment if he would call and ask me to set some things aside, but not [I]that [/I]day. Believe me, there's a sucker born every minute, and our kids can find them like they have a heat seeking missile. [/QUOTE]
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