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<blockquote data-quote="Lovelife" data-source="post: 696894" data-attributes="member: 20624"><p>We go so back and forth on this. He is also very manipulative. He will suffer a well defined consequence (mostly natural, but we have one in place that seems to be the only effective one at least short-term... building a foundation ). He will be violent or aggressive, lose his privilege, and then hang all over us, giving hugs and affection, apologizing profusely. Then ask if he gets his privilege back. Nope, we don't back down. Met with a meltdown and violent acts. Doesn't scare us as much as the sexualized behavior tho, since we believe it was going on in his previous home as well, with the other kids (who weren't able to report). The aggression towards the dogs is another huge red flag to us ... no sense of responsibility, guilt, remorse. He never ever takes responsibility for his actions, despite us not being angry or punitive types in our ways. He held up our one dog by his collar, and laughed when I explained to him why it was wrong... and to put him down. His response was a big smile and "I didn't hear any choking noises". He also panics about being abandoned, and cannot self play. He also does not like to be by himself, and if on a car trip without distractions, will chatter non stop, and get annoyed if not answered immediately. Thinking we answered our own question.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lovelife, post: 696894, member: 20624"] We go so back and forth on this. He is also very manipulative. He will suffer a well defined consequence (mostly natural, but we have one in place that seems to be the only effective one at least short-term... building a foundation ). He will be violent or aggressive, lose his privilege, and then hang all over us, giving hugs and affection, apologizing profusely. Then ask if he gets his privilege back. Nope, we don't back down. Met with a meltdown and violent acts. Doesn't scare us as much as the sexualized behavior tho, since we believe it was going on in his previous home as well, with the other kids (who weren't able to report). The aggression towards the dogs is another huge red flag to us ... no sense of responsibility, guilt, remorse. He never ever takes responsibility for his actions, despite us not being angry or punitive types in our ways. He held up our one dog by his collar, and laughed when I explained to him why it was wrong... and to put him down. His response was a big smile and "I didn't hear any choking noises". He also panics about being abandoned, and cannot self play. He also does not like to be by himself, and if on a car trip without distractions, will chatter non stop, and get annoyed if not answered immediately. Thinking we answered our own question. [/QUOTE]
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