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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 696934" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Bottom line. Rethink adopting him. Some kids are too damaged sadly to be safe in families.</p><p></p><p>If you do continue with him, please rehome your dogs. That dog who shakes...makes me so sad. He could be killed, even if you ARE home.</p><p></p><p>The kid we had took a beautiful new puppy we had bought after our older dog had died (we didon't know yet that he had strangled the dog) and then threw the puppy over a top bunk while he hled the leash, strangling her to death. That was when he was first caught doing a heinous deed and it was three years in. He was such a good sneak. This, and others, haunt me to this day. Poor, innocent puppy. Nobody was home but me and him and he tried to pretend to cry and say the puppy strangled herself. I called the cops. And this was before we knew he had hurt our younger kids...Told tje cops to take him, weren't sure we could be safe around him if they didnt. They did and did not charge us with anything like abandonment, although they could have. I think the dead puppy sickened them too.</p><p></p><p>Don't be us. We loved him lots and it didn't matter. We were just fortunate he didn't burn our house down too. My kids talked about him but not until way after he left...he used to tell them he was the devil and more powerful than even the parents and that he would burn the house down and kill us all, even himself, if they ever told us what he did yo them sexually or otherwise.</p><p></p><p>They believed him, even though we had had that talk about good and bad touching and how we would believe them and stop bad touching...he used a knife on them to force them to do what he wanted. By his calm demeanor to adults and all his hugs and kisses, I never knew. I still feel guilty. We got tons of help...our kids he touched are thriving adults now. But he hurt them...</p><p></p><p>You are legally responsible for anything a minor child of yours does to a neighbor or friend or school mate or unrelated child. Do you want to take that risk? If we could do it over we'd only adopt babies, and we have and they are wonderful. It is risky to adopt an older child who is probably already emotionally screwed up and often without a conscience. It is like raising a tiny sociopath. They were never loved and respond with fear and hate toward any attempt. Our love scares them and they even do worse.</p><p></p><p>Adopt an infant. </p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 696934, member: 1550"] Bottom line. Rethink adopting him. Some kids are too damaged sadly to be safe in families. If you do continue with him, please rehome your dogs. That dog who shakes...makes me so sad. He could be killed, even if you ARE home. The kid we had took a beautiful new puppy we had bought after our older dog had died (we didon't know yet that he had strangled the dog) and then threw the puppy over a top bunk while he hled the leash, strangling her to death. That was when he was first caught doing a heinous deed and it was three years in. He was such a good sneak. This, and others, haunt me to this day. Poor, innocent puppy. Nobody was home but me and him and he tried to pretend to cry and say the puppy strangled herself. I called the cops. And this was before we knew he had hurt our younger kids...Told tje cops to take him, weren't sure we could be safe around him if they didnt. They did and did not charge us with anything like abandonment, although they could have. I think the dead puppy sickened them too. Don't be us. We loved him lots and it didn't matter. We were just fortunate he didn't burn our house down too. My kids talked about him but not until way after he left...he used to tell them he was the devil and more powerful than even the parents and that he would burn the house down and kill us all, even himself, if they ever told us what he did yo them sexually or otherwise. They believed him, even though we had had that talk about good and bad touching and how we would believe them and stop bad touching...he used a knife on them to force them to do what he wanted. By his calm demeanor to adults and all his hugs and kisses, I never knew. I still feel guilty. We got tons of help...our kids he touched are thriving adults now. But he hurt them... You are legally responsible for anything a minor child of yours does to a neighbor or friend or school mate or unrelated child. Do you want to take that risk? If we could do it over we'd only adopt babies, and we have and they are wonderful. It is risky to adopt an older child who is probably already emotionally screwed up and often without a conscience. It is like raising a tiny sociopath. They were never loved and respond with fear and hate toward any attempt. Our love scares them and they even do worse. Adopt an infant. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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