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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 693724" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Deja Vu for me. This sounds all to familiar to several phone calls / texts I have received from my son in the past. One time when my son called to tell me had been robbed I told him "now you know how dad and I felt all times you stole from us" He called me an F*^&%#@ B*^%# and hung up on me. </p><p>Another time he sent me a text telling me that he needed help because he had a huge gash in his leg and that it may need to be amputated. I replied that he needed to get to an emergency room. The next day on FB he posted about his nice long hike in the mountains. Amazing he could do that with the huge gash in his leg.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/cautious.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":cautious:" title="cautious :cautious:" data-shortname=":cautious:" /></p><p></p><p> Yes, I believe your son is just ramping it up. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry you have had to endure this. I have been there too wondering "who does this". I have learned the more desperate our d_c's become the more elaborate their stories can be. </p><p></p><p>For myself, I had to dig my heels in and be firm in my resolve to not give in to any of my sons pleas for help. Over time my son finally got the message that I was not going to be manipulated into giving him money. I also had to come to terms that my son may very well die and that I may never know. I used to let my mind run wild thinking of all the horrible scenarios that could happen to my son while being homeless. I came to realize that this was very unhealthy for me. I was robbing myself of precious energy. All my worrying and visualizing would not change one thing for my son. I realized that anyone of the horrible scenarios could very well happen. I didn't like it but once I accepted it for what it is I was able to move on and let go of all the fear and anxiety that went with it.</p><p></p><p>The only time I would hear from my son was when he wanted something from me. I never get a call, text, or PM on FB to just say "hey mom thinking about you" </p><p></p><p>As long as our d_c's continue to put their drugs first we the parents will only be acknowledged when they want something, usually money.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there Albatross!! Sending you ((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 693724, member: 18516"] Deja Vu for me. This sounds all to familiar to several phone calls / texts I have received from my son in the past. One time when my son called to tell me had been robbed I told him "now you know how dad and I felt all times you stole from us" He called me an F*^&%#@ B*^%# and hung up on me. Another time he sent me a text telling me that he needed help because he had a huge gash in his leg and that it may need to be amputated. I replied that he needed to get to an emergency room. The next day on FB he posted about his nice long hike in the mountains. Amazing he could do that with the huge gash in his leg.:cautious: Yes, I believe your son is just ramping it up. I'm so sorry you have had to endure this. I have been there too wondering "who does this". I have learned the more desperate our d_c's become the more elaborate their stories can be. For myself, I had to dig my heels in and be firm in my resolve to not give in to any of my sons pleas for help. Over time my son finally got the message that I was not going to be manipulated into giving him money. I also had to come to terms that my son may very well die and that I may never know. I used to let my mind run wild thinking of all the horrible scenarios that could happen to my son while being homeless. I came to realize that this was very unhealthy for me. I was robbing myself of precious energy. All my worrying and visualizing would not change one thing for my son. I realized that anyone of the horrible scenarios could very well happen. I didn't like it but once I accepted it for what it is I was able to move on and let go of all the fear and anxiety that went with it. The only time I would hear from my son was when he wanted something from me. I never get a call, text, or PM on FB to just say "hey mom thinking about you" As long as our d_c's continue to put their drugs first we the parents will only be acknowledged when they want something, usually money. Hang in there Albatross!! Sending you ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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