Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Advise Please From Wise Parents
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 699573" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>I am very glad to hear that, COM. It sounds like good news on many fronts. He has come so far in these 2 years. I totally understand about the reasonable assistance. We have all been in that spot where our "help" is used to their detriment, but we also want to help when they are helping themselves and sincerely just need a little help. It is a day to celebrate when we can offer help in the spirit it is intended. </p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, my son is not at that point yet. Lost job and lost spot in shelter due to failing a drug test, on his way to yet another geographical cure, lots of feeling sorry for himself.</p><p></p><p>The only positive I see is that at least he admits it is on him, not on someone or something else. </p><p></p><p>I feel good about not stepping in with any financial assistance, as I believe it only hurts him (and us) until he shows some long-term change. But it is difficult to not step in emotionally. I am sorry to say I gave him a big ol' lecture today. It is hard to remember that he just can't see it all clearly. Baby steps, for him and for me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 699573, member: 17720"] I am very glad to hear that, COM. It sounds like good news on many fronts. He has come so far in these 2 years. I totally understand about the reasonable assistance. We have all been in that spot where our "help" is used to their detriment, but we also want to help when they are helping themselves and sincerely just need a little help. It is a day to celebrate when we can offer help in the spirit it is intended. Unfortunately, my son is not at that point yet. Lost job and lost spot in shelter due to failing a drug test, on his way to yet another geographical cure, lots of feeling sorry for himself. The only positive I see is that at least he admits it is on him, not on someone or something else. I feel good about not stepping in with any financial assistance, as I believe it only hurts him (and us) until he shows some long-term change. But it is difficult to not step in emotionally. I am sorry to say I gave him a big ol' lecture today. It is hard to remember that he just can't see it all clearly. Baby steps, for him and for me. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Advise Please From Wise Parents
Top