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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 678719" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I wondered about that too. Without any "narcissism", or positive self regard, we would not be healthy, either. In that sense, the term is confusing. One of the best descriptions I have read of the internal reality of the malignant narcissist is: An <em>unrequited </em>love affair with the self. As I understand it, the narcissist idealizes the selected other out of all proportion and then, hates the idealized person, place, or thing they have tried to become or incorporate. For our purposes here, information that resonates with us ~ that gives us a feeling of suddenly understanding why certain things have happened, say ~ is good. If we don't feel that kind of "Oh, I get it now." then the information probably doesn't pertain to us, or maybe we are not ready to hear it or maybe the information is wrong. </p><p></p><p>This is one of the images from the site referenced above. I like it especially because it addresses flexibility versus rigidity.</p><p></p><p>We are fluid, flexible beings, not solid unchangeable things.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p></p><p><img src="http://i610.photobucket.com/albums/tt188/CZBZ/WoN/Narc%20Continuum/NarcKey640-2_zpsc026258a.jpg" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 678719, member: 17461"] I wondered about that too. Without any "narcissism", or positive self regard, we would not be healthy, either. In that sense, the term is confusing. One of the best descriptions I have read of the internal reality of the malignant narcissist is: An [I]unrequited [/I]love affair with the self. As I understand it, the narcissist idealizes the selected other out of all proportion and then, hates the idealized person, place, or thing they have tried to become or incorporate. For our purposes here, information that resonates with us ~ that gives us a feeling of suddenly understanding why certain things have happened, say ~ is good. If we don't feel that kind of "Oh, I get it now." then the information probably doesn't pertain to us, or maybe we are not ready to hear it or maybe the information is wrong. This is one of the images from the site referenced above. I like it especially because it addresses flexibility versus rigidity. We are fluid, flexible beings, not solid unchangeable things. Cedar [IMG]http://i610.photobucket.com/albums/tt188/CZBZ/WoN/Narc%20Continuum/NarcKey640-2_zpsc026258a.jpg[/IMG] [/QUOTE]
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