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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 680047" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>I was reflecting more along the lines of changing damaging habits, self sabotage, negative tapes, the thought connected to the voices all those years ago that I did not matter, that is what I want to discard. I was comparing that to things I was pulling out of my closet that I have no use for. Things I have held on to, but looking at them now, I can let go.</p><p>I have no use for those negative tapes and seeing myself through the eyes of my childhood abusers.</p><p></p><p>Thank you Cedar.</p><p></p><p>There is a tranquility about that image......But, you know Cedar, although there is such tranquility, Iz struggled with his weight. The health issues that came with it, eventually took his life, his sister, his brother, too. I think that is what we are looking into, what lies beneath the surface. We are fascinated by the voice, the message and image, but there was struggle beneath all of that. It is life, is it not? We struggle from birth. It is what becomes of the struggle that matters.</p><p><img src="http://refe99.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/struggle.jpg" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="" /></p><p></p><p>Relishing the simple, serene moments....yes, and they are there. There is beauty all around us, and I am grateful for the life I have.</p><p> I did not know about the affect on brain waves, but Dad taught me about breathing when we used to jog together. I know you are writing of deep breathing when still, but this works for me also when working my body.</p><p> Healing. I am getting there. I guess when the kids went of the rails, it touched me at the core. Brought a lot of those old feelings right to the surface. Examining the past is not about blaming, it is about looking at it to understand why I go to places within my self that are not healthy. I was just a child, as were my sibs. </p><p>So, it is about change, after all, changing the old ways of thinking.</p><p> Kinder is a good place to begin. The golden rule reversed. Treat yourself the way you would treat other people. Thank you Cedar.</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 680047, member: 19522"] I was reflecting more along the lines of changing damaging habits, self sabotage, negative tapes, the thought connected to the voices all those years ago that I did not matter, that is what I want to discard. I was comparing that to things I was pulling out of my closet that I have no use for. Things I have held on to, but looking at them now, I can let go. I have no use for those negative tapes and seeing myself through the eyes of my childhood abusers. Thank you Cedar. There is a tranquility about that image......But, you know Cedar, although there is such tranquility, Iz struggled with his weight. The health issues that came with it, eventually took his life, his sister, his brother, too. I think that is what we are looking into, what lies beneath the surface. We are fascinated by the voice, the message and image, but there was struggle beneath all of that. It is life, is it not? We struggle from birth. It is what becomes of the struggle that matters. [IMG]http://refe99.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/struggle.jpg[/IMG] Relishing the simple, serene moments....yes, and they are there. There is beauty all around us, and I am grateful for the life I have. I did not know about the affect on brain waves, but Dad taught me about breathing when we used to jog together. I know you are writing of deep breathing when still, but this works for me also when working my body. Healing. I am getting there. I guess when the kids went of the rails, it touched me at the core. Brought a lot of those old feelings right to the surface. Examining the past is not about blaming, it is about looking at it to understand why I go to places within my self that are not healthy. I was just a child, as were my sibs. So, it is about change, after all, changing the old ways of thinking. Kinder is a good place to begin. The golden rule reversed. Treat yourself the way you would treat other people. Thank you Cedar. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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