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<blockquote data-quote="ColleenB" data-source="post: 727125" data-attributes="member: 19887"><p>I hope you had a good visit with your son. I imagine you had many feelings and hope you are not letting the game of “what if” and trying to predict the future cloud this time with your son. </p><p></p><p>I understand wanting to live near him after, and I will be the one voice who doesn’t see this as a problem. Our son is with us and is doing very well. He has needed our support in these early days of recovery and we have been here. We are seeing more independence and he is such a different person. He is kind and funny again, and we don’t see any anger at all. He is at school or the gym and hangs out with a few good friends but spends time with us too. He didn’t spend any real time with us the last five years, during his active addiction. I said it’s like he is 18/19 again and we are starting over, as it is said addiction can stall development at the time of the beginning of the addiction, so this makes sense. Our 20 year old is much more independent. We are ok with this and are trying to encourage independence. He seems to want to spend time with us, watching hockey with his dad or visiting my elderly grandparents with me. This is who he was until the drug use. I am aware he needs to find his way, and I think we are encouraging him to do so, but I also have no problem supporting him right now. </p><p></p><p>We actually went away this weekend and had no worries ( well, a little) but came home to a house that was basically as we left it. No parties, no damage. First time in a long time we could do that. </p><p></p><p>You have come so far and so has he. Don’t project too much into the future, and enjoy this time, sober, with your son. None of us know for sure how things will turn out with our addict kids, and predicting or worrying doesn’t help or even make sense. </p><p></p><p>Taking it a day at time and living in the moment. Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ColleenB, post: 727125, member: 19887"] I hope you had a good visit with your son. I imagine you had many feelings and hope you are not letting the game of “what if” and trying to predict the future cloud this time with your son. I understand wanting to live near him after, and I will be the one voice who doesn’t see this as a problem. Our son is with us and is doing very well. He has needed our support in these early days of recovery and we have been here. We are seeing more independence and he is such a different person. He is kind and funny again, and we don’t see any anger at all. He is at school or the gym and hangs out with a few good friends but spends time with us too. He didn’t spend any real time with us the last five years, during his active addiction. I said it’s like he is 18/19 again and we are starting over, as it is said addiction can stall development at the time of the beginning of the addiction, so this makes sense. Our 20 year old is much more independent. We are ok with this and are trying to encourage independence. He seems to want to spend time with us, watching hockey with his dad or visiting my elderly grandparents with me. This is who he was until the drug use. I am aware he needs to find his way, and I think we are encouraging him to do so, but I also have no problem supporting him right now. We actually went away this weekend and had no worries ( well, a little) but came home to a house that was basically as we left it. No parties, no damage. First time in a long time we could do that. You have come so far and so has he. Don’t project too much into the future, and enjoy this time, sober, with your son. None of us know for sure how things will turn out with our addict kids, and predicting or worrying doesn’t help or even make sense. Taking it a day at time and living in the moment. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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