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Message: <blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 443337"><p>I don't think you were/are too detached.  My family difficult child is my nephew, not my son, but I was very close with him--the favorite uncle, by far--prior to his hideous descent into despicable GFGdom in his teens, and I have cut him out of my life entirely, with absolutely no desire whatsoever to ever see or communicate with him ever again, and I've told him so in very blunt terms.  So you're practically a lovefest compared to that.  You're doing fine.  These difficult children sometimes do such vile stuff to us that it generates what psychologists call "extinction"--i.e., full emotional detachment, as if they were strangers, or worse, as if they were people for whom you feel dislike and nothing more.  This even happens to parents, if the abuse and misconduct and hateful treatment is extended and unremitting and sufficiently harsh.</p></blockquote><p></p>