You know what, you are so right about the "talking doesn't work" aspect. Thanks for reminding me of that. I am going to have to show her instead and I think what will work the most is if a situation does arise, and she starts her stuff, I will leave and not talk to her for a LONG time. I know that will be REALLY hard for her.
As for my brother (you do remember the abusive and arrogant jerk we are talking about right?), you are right it is his decision and by no means would I be trying to guilt him. I don't know if you read what I wrote correctly, but try re-reading because sometimes we do miss things. I said if he , for whatever reason, tries to get me to let difficult child move back in with me, especially after what he said to me about my being a bad parent, he can do it ten times better than me and if I get in the way he will make my life hell, I am surely going to remind him of what he said, especially since I have it in text message. I am not going to make it easy for him (or difficult child) to kick difficult child out. If he does it, he will have to have the hardship and the guilt of putting her out, NOT me and I HAVE to be really strict about that because my brother will try any way possible, including being abusive and trying to make my life hell, in order to get his way, the way he wants it. Meaning, if he wants me to be the one to take her back in, he sure as sh*t is going to try to make it happen (including all other kinds of sneaky tactics) and I WILL NOT let that happen. I will not deal with his abuse and tactics anymore just like i won't deal with difficult child's. Period. He wanted it this way, now he's got it and if things don't turn out good, he will have to bare the burden of throwing her out, not me. He will NOT suck me into it, get me involved and I will in no way, shape or form help him, ESPECIALLY after all the horrible things he has said to me. For once, he will have to own up to his words towards me.
