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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 716521" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I believe in the times they are sincere, they are. It is just that it goes only so far. When they are presented with something they want, they sincerely want THAT, which dictates their behavior in the moment. Your son,rn, continues to disavow responsibility to "Demon Rum." I guess that is the beginning of the humility that could be and should be a basis of real change. But he has to come to want it more than anything for himself, not for his family.</p><p></p><p>As I type this I realize so much my self-delusion with my son and my desperate holding onto the sense I have any control or real influence at all. I believe my son loves me sincerely. But does that extend to choices for himself, or hesitancy in manipulating me according to his momentary needs and interests, no.</p><p></p><p> My job is me. Protecting me, centering me, nurturing me. I forever keep getting my role confused in parenting an adult child. This is my problem and I make it his. Unfortunately for both of us. You guys here who grapple with this with far younger children are a great help and great models. Thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 716521, member: 18958"] I believe in the times they are sincere, they are. It is just that it goes only so far. When they are presented with something they want, they sincerely want THAT, which dictates their behavior in the moment. Your son,rn, continues to disavow responsibility to "Demon Rum." I guess that is the beginning of the humility that could be and should be a basis of real change. But he has to come to want it more than anything for himself, not for his family. As I type this I realize so much my self-delusion with my son and my desperate holding onto the sense I have any control or real influence at all. I believe my son loves me sincerely. But does that extend to choices for himself, or hesitancy in manipulating me according to his momentary needs and interests, no. My job is me. Protecting me, centering me, nurturing me. I forever keep getting my role confused in parenting an adult child. This is my problem and I make it his. Unfortunately for both of us. You guys here who grapple with this with far younger children are a great help and great models. Thank you. [/QUOTE]
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