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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 700915" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi Lil.</p><p></p><p>What a question for us all to wrestle with this am. My expectations. They torture me daily...and back to "only what is on my side of the line". We spend so many years bound together, mother and son. I want independence for my son but I realize to me that means working an honest job and self-supporting. Independence/happiness to him seems to mean surviving without having to live conventionally. My husband continually reminds me that our son seems mostly happy where he is in his life and my immediate response is "how can this be?" Does he complain about lack of funds? Yes. So do I at times. It is foggy to me even as I write this. I never thought I could be happy just knowing he was breathing. I wanted so much more. I wish he did. But I find I can be happy now, a little more each day. I hope that for you and Jabber, that you can reach a place that puts some separation emotionally between you and your son. I wasted way too many days being stressed, sad, pained, etc. Don't be me. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 700915, member: 20054"] Hi Lil. What a question for us all to wrestle with this am. My expectations. They torture me daily...and back to "only what is on my side of the line". We spend so many years bound together, mother and son. I want independence for my son but I realize to me that means working an honest job and self-supporting. Independence/happiness to him seems to mean surviving without having to live conventionally. My husband continually reminds me that our son seems mostly happy where he is in his life and my immediate response is "how can this be?" Does he complain about lack of funds? Yes. So do I at times. It is foggy to me even as I write this. I never thought I could be happy just knowing he was breathing. I wanted so much more. I wish he did. But I find I can be happy now, a little more each day. I hope that for you and Jabber, that you can reach a place that puts some separation emotionally between you and your son. I wasted way too many days being stressed, sad, pained, etc. Don't be me. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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