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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 701069" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Lil, you did the right thing, I know it was hard. </p><p> I get the texting, the ramping up of begging-many here told me it would come when we drew the no $ line and it did. The last thing we continued to supplement was the phone, I just couldn't see how he could do without it. Then, I found out he had a "government" phone for months-he could have made it without my walmart phone card. Now, eight months later, he doesn't ask. (he doesn't call much either) We realize our whole interactions for yrs. have been him trying to get from us what he could do for himself.</p><p> We take dinner to him once a month, homemade favorites, but I do this for me. We tell him each time that we love him. At these times I usually casually say we can't help you, but I thought we'd bring dinner. Once in a while we get message or text with "woe is me" format, but he doesn't ask-just throws it out there to see if we'll bite. We don't respond to those. This may to you sound like a sorry excuse for a relationship but believe me it's worlds better than what we've had for years. Sometimes I try to total up the larger amounts of $ paid, just to strengthen my resolve-it reminds me how many times we did the same thing expecting different results. We could have retired on the outlay of $5 cigarettes and the $20 gas alone. </p><p>Your bus ticket offer was generous, that's not what he wanted. Sometimes I think there must be a Difficult Child manual. "Ask them for $20 on Wed., tell them you need shoes on Thurs., say you're hungry and the shelter is full on Fri." How can we ever know the truth?</p><p>Hold your line. You really don't want to still be doing this ten years from now. This is the hardest part but you can do it knowing that it's best for all of you.</p><p>Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 701069, member: 20054"] Lil, you did the right thing, I know it was hard. I get the texting, the ramping up of begging-many here told me it would come when we drew the no $ line and it did. The last thing we continued to supplement was the phone, I just couldn't see how he could do without it. Then, I found out he had a "government" phone for months-he could have made it without my walmart phone card. Now, eight months later, he doesn't ask. (he doesn't call much either) We realize our whole interactions for yrs. have been him trying to get from us what he could do for himself. We take dinner to him once a month, homemade favorites, but I do this for me. We tell him each time that we love him. At these times I usually casually say we can't help you, but I thought we'd bring dinner. Once in a while we get message or text with "woe is me" format, but he doesn't ask-just throws it out there to see if we'll bite. We don't respond to those. This may to you sound like a sorry excuse for a relationship but believe me it's worlds better than what we've had for years. Sometimes I try to total up the larger amounts of $ paid, just to strengthen my resolve-it reminds me how many times we did the same thing expecting different results. We could have retired on the outlay of $5 cigarettes and the $20 gas alone. Your bus ticket offer was generous, that's not what he wanted. Sometimes I think there must be a Difficult Child manual. "Ask them for $20 on Wed., tell them you need shoes on Thurs., say you're hungry and the shelter is full on Fri." How can we ever know the truth? Hold your line. You really don't want to still be doing this ten years from now. This is the hardest part but you can do it knowing that it's best for all of you. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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