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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 701318" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>What he said.</p><p></p><p>I love my son. I don't love his lifestyle. I don't love dishes in his room, refusal to bathe, absolute laziness and stubborn refusal to help us with anything. (Grass needs mowed? Jabber (or I, but usually Jabber) does it. Bushes need trimmed? I do it. Snow needs shoveled? We do it. Dogs needs walked, fed or otherwise cared for? We do it. Trash needs taken out? VERY VERY RARELY, he'll do it and 9 times out of 10 (19 out of 20?), we have to ask.) I don't love wondering what his mood will be like day to day. I don't like that he keeps hanging out with people like J, even when he knows they are using him and no real friends. I don't love that he feels, however it is he feels - friendless and useless and alone. I don't love that I don't know how to help him. I don't love that he wears us out...the worry and the stress and the disappointment.</p><p></p><p>I hate not knowing what to do. Do you toss your son out because he's a slob? Really? Do you toss him out to be homeless because he's lazy? If he's gone, you're <em>still</em> the one mowing the lawn, after all.</p><p></p><p>I don't want him to fail, not at life and not even at this adventure. I don't want him to give up so easily. He's always given up easily. I want him to succeed or at least I want this to have taught him that the life we expect from him, working and staying away from these losers - even if that does mean being alone - is better than the alternative.</p><p></p><p>Magical thinking. <em> This time it will all be okay. </em></p><p></p><p>I hate that we're stressed out over this when we don't even <em>know</em> if it's doing to happen! We don't even know for a fact that he wants to come home. We don't know if that means to our house or someone elses. We don't know anything and I'm afraid to ask. I'm afraid to contact him because that will start to cycle of calls and texts and begging and sad stories. </p><p></p><p>A parent should not be afraid to contact their child. The whole situation is just so damn frustrating.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 701318, member: 17309"] What he said. I love my son. I don't love his lifestyle. I don't love dishes in his room, refusal to bathe, absolute laziness and stubborn refusal to help us with anything. (Grass needs mowed? Jabber (or I, but usually Jabber) does it. Bushes need trimmed? I do it. Snow needs shoveled? We do it. Dogs needs walked, fed or otherwise cared for? We do it. Trash needs taken out? VERY VERY RARELY, he'll do it and 9 times out of 10 (19 out of 20?), we have to ask.) I don't love wondering what his mood will be like day to day. I don't like that he keeps hanging out with people like J, even when he knows they are using him and no real friends. I don't love that he feels, however it is he feels - friendless and useless and alone. I don't love that I don't know how to help him. I don't love that he wears us out...the worry and the stress and the disappointment. I hate not knowing what to do. Do you toss your son out because he's a slob? Really? Do you toss him out to be homeless because he's lazy? If he's gone, you're [I]still[/I] the one mowing the lawn, after all. I don't want him to fail, not at life and not even at this adventure. I don't want him to give up so easily. He's always given up easily. I want him to succeed or at least I want this to have taught him that the life we expect from him, working and staying away from these losers - even if that does mean being alone - is better than the alternative. Magical thinking. [I] This time it will all be okay. [/I] I hate that we're stressed out over this when we don't even [I]know[/I] if it's doing to happen! We don't even know for a fact that he wants to come home. We don't know if that means to our house or someone elses. We don't know anything and I'm afraid to ask. I'm afraid to contact him because that will start to cycle of calls and texts and begging and sad stories. A parent should not be afraid to contact their child. The whole situation is just so damn frustrating. [/QUOTE]
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