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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 753021" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Copa, I am notorious for Googling (it’s my university for now) and discovered the research on ACEs awhile back. My grands are at a 9. Hubs was too, which gave me a lot of insight into why he was the way he was. I always felt he had so much bottled up inside. It is upsetting to know the effect on brain growth with trauma, considering how high on the scale my grands are. But, the good news is that the plasticity of the brain means there is an opportunity to create new connections that help the brain function and calm down the constant stress traumatic events create. Going from 0-10 does not even apply as high ACE scores mean kids are operating on high anxiety and stress mode as a baseline. Knowing this has helped me switch from a consequence driven discipline to more positive affirmation to help build resilience. It is hard for an old fashioned mind set to see through the behaviors as cry’s for help, to find different strategies to work towards healing. I am so very grateful for your research and help. I have ordered some books through Amazon and am pouring over them and highlighting key points to help me remember that calm and steady is the course. Hard to apply in the heat of things but I am trying. Like you, I am thinking that perhaps this is my life’s journey, to find and redefine my own self, by helping my grands. </p><p>Much love</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 753021, member: 19522"] Hi Copa, I am notorious for Googling (it’s my university for now) and discovered the research on ACEs awhile back. My grands are at a 9. Hubs was too, which gave me a lot of insight into why he was the way he was. I always felt he had so much bottled up inside. It is upsetting to know the effect on brain growth with trauma, considering how high on the scale my grands are. But, the good news is that the plasticity of the brain means there is an opportunity to create new connections that help the brain function and calm down the constant stress traumatic events create. Going from 0-10 does not even apply as high ACE scores mean kids are operating on high anxiety and stress mode as a baseline. Knowing this has helped me switch from a consequence driven discipline to more positive affirmation to help build resilience. It is hard for an old fashioned mind set to see through the behaviors as cry’s for help, to find different strategies to work towards healing. I am so very grateful for your research and help. I have ordered some books through Amazon and am pouring over them and highlighting key points to help me remember that calm and steady is the course. Hard to apply in the heat of things but I am trying. Like you, I am thinking that perhaps this is my life’s journey, to find and redefine my own self, by helping my grands. Much love Leafy [/QUOTE]
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