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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 753057" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi RN</p><p> I don’t expect to see her anytime soon. It has been her M.O. for years. If she does try and come up, I will explain the effect on the kids, that it is too painful for them. That is the truth.</p><p></p><p> Me neither, but this is an addict talking. I have heard other people talk about “functioning users.” Meaning they limit their use so that they are able to go to work, etc. I don’t know how this is possible considering that meth is one of those drugs where you need more and more <em>just to feel normal. </em></p><p>True RN. Not only does she have the drug use working against her, she also has diabetes. I don’t know what her leg looks like now. I just have to give it to God and let it go. There is nothing more I can do.</p><p> I have been following this discussion and since my title is “And so it is” feel it fits. I think most of us come here desperately in need of finding respite from the sadness of grieving over and over again our grown children’s choices. Transitioning from the absolute horror of it, thinking we can do something to fix it, reeling the tapes and finding blame within ourselves to hopefully realizing we did the best job we could and then understanding that people grow up and choose their path. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and perspective. Some replies and opinions can be straightforward and to the point, some folks are not ready to read that. We are all coming from a place of deep hurt. Everyone has their own way of coping. Whether it be to hope or not to hope. There is also the issue of how we can read emotion and suppose intent “between the lines”. It’s hard sometimes to clarify in written word. I haven’t been on CD for some time now, so I don’t know all of the backstory to this exchange. What I do know is that at one time I was hurt by a comment made. I don’t think that was the intention of the member. I think it revealed my vulnerability and rawness. Kind of what I see with my grands. They are easily triggered and offended. That’s trauma in action. Spilling over.</p><p>We are all coming from some very difficult and heart wrenching ordeals. This is supposed to be a soft place to land for battle weary parents. Not everyone has to like one another, their style of writing or how we choose to deal with our challenges, but I do think we should be kind.</p><p></p><p>It must be hard to see him go through all of the training successfully, then he realizes it is not really what he wants to do. That’s tough. A letdown. But, who would want to be stuck in a career that we don’t want or enjoy at least some of the time?</p><p></p><p></p><p>At least he is applying?</p><p> I would be worried too, RN, you all have been through so much. But not using drugs? That’s <em>huge</em>. I hope he is able to get a job and keep moving forward. For all of your sakes.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p><p>Ps I hope I did not offend anyone here.</p><p>Peace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 753057, member: 19522"] Hi RN I don’t expect to see her anytime soon. It has been her M.O. for years. If she does try and come up, I will explain the effect on the kids, that it is too painful for them. That is the truth. Me neither, but this is an addict talking. I have heard other people talk about “functioning users.” Meaning they limit their use so that they are able to go to work, etc. I don’t know how this is possible considering that meth is one of those drugs where you need more and more [I]just to feel normal. [/I] True RN. Not only does she have the drug use working against her, she also has diabetes. I don’t know what her leg looks like now. I just have to give it to God and let it go. There is nothing more I can do. I have been following this discussion and since my title is “And so it is” feel it fits. I think most of us come here desperately in need of finding respite from the sadness of grieving over and over again our grown children’s choices. Transitioning from the absolute horror of it, thinking we can do something to fix it, reeling the tapes and finding blame within ourselves to hopefully realizing we did the best job we could and then understanding that people grow up and choose their path. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and perspective. Some replies and opinions can be straightforward and to the point, some folks are not ready to read that. We are all coming from a place of deep hurt. Everyone has their own way of coping. Whether it be to hope or not to hope. There is also the issue of how we can read emotion and suppose intent “between the lines”. It’s hard sometimes to clarify in written word. I haven’t been on CD for some time now, so I don’t know all of the backstory to this exchange. What I do know is that at one time I was hurt by a comment made. I don’t think that was the intention of the member. I think it revealed my vulnerability and rawness. Kind of what I see with my grands. They are easily triggered and offended. That’s trauma in action. Spilling over. We are all coming from some very difficult and heart wrenching ordeals. This is supposed to be a soft place to land for battle weary parents. Not everyone has to like one another, their style of writing or how we choose to deal with our challenges, but I do think we should be kind. It must be hard to see him go through all of the training successfully, then he realizes it is not really what he wants to do. That’s tough. A letdown. But, who would want to be stuck in a career that we don’t want or enjoy at least some of the time? At least he is applying? I would be worried too, RN, you all have been through so much. But not using drugs? That’s [I]huge[/I]. I hope he is able to get a job and keep moving forward. For all of your sakes. (((Hugs))) Leafy Ps I hope I did not offend anyone here. Peace [/QUOTE]
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