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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 357299" data-attributes="member: 1991">Smallworld, I always feared this would happen with my parents too, towards their end. But what I found happened, especially with my father - there were barriers there when he WAS lucid, because to talk about the meaningful things when he was still very much alive was too confronting for him. He needed to make light of his condition because he was so determined to 'think positive&quot;.There is always a last conversation. it's just not always the one we expect it to be. So we need to make each conversation good enough to be acceptable as a last conversation. Never forget to say the things we need to say, so we don't have regrets. And if you feel she's too doped out on medications to take anything on board - say it anyway. Somewhere in there, she will hear. Another thing you could do, which I had to do with my dad because it was the only way past the barrier - I put it in writing. I was told by my mother that it meant a great deal to him, for me to have written what I did. But he couldn't tell me himself. It was too close to home for him. I had to accept that and be glad I had managed to share as well as I did.hugs. Enjoy what time you have with your mother while you have her.Marg</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 357299, member: 1991"] Smallworld, I always feared this would happen with my parents too, towards their end. But what I found happened, especially with my father - there were barriers there when he WAS lucid, because to talk about the meaningful things when he was still very much alive was too confronting for him. He needed to make light of his condition because he was so determined to 'think positive". There is always a last conversation. it's just not always the one we expect it to be. So we need to make each conversation good enough to be acceptable as a last conversation. Never forget to say the things we need to say, so we don't have regrets. And if you feel she's too doped out on medications to take anything on board - say it anyway. Somewhere in there, she will hear. Another thing you could do, which I had to do with my dad because it was the only way past the barrier - I put it in writing. I was told by my mother that it meant a great deal to him, for me to have written what I did. But he couldn't tell me himself. It was too close to home for him. I had to accept that and be glad I had managed to share as well as I did. hugs. Enjoy what time you have with your mother while you have her. Marg [/QUOTE]

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