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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 742223" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>I have no idea when the time comes. But at some point you probably have to accept that there is nothing that you can do to change this and acceptance is the only way to your own health. Its a given concept in the substance abuse world. What you describe of your son echoes a lot of what the parents of addicts face. You can't control his behavior or change his thinking. He is self-destructive. He cannot get help unless he asks for it. And that's not going to happen in his current thinking. There is no forced treatment. He has so much wasted potential. For many of us, our kids blame us. </p><p></p><p>Some people don't see addiction as a mental illness. Reality is that statistically something like 75% of addicts have underlying diagnosable mental illness. Untreated of course.</p><p></p><p>What I'm suggesting is that given your husband's illness and all the other stressors in your life should you be thinking of this (getting him into treatment) as another battle you have to fight? Is it your battle? Can you win or are you Don Quixote? I know that my view is different because I have spent years with parents of addicts rather than parents of solely mentally ill. But I hope you give it some thought.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 742223, member: 23371"] I have no idea when the time comes. But at some point you probably have to accept that there is nothing that you can do to change this and acceptance is the only way to your own health. Its a given concept in the substance abuse world. What you describe of your son echoes a lot of what the parents of addicts face. You can't control his behavior or change his thinking. He is self-destructive. He cannot get help unless he asks for it. And that's not going to happen in his current thinking. There is no forced treatment. He has so much wasted potential. For many of us, our kids blame us. Some people don't see addiction as a mental illness. Reality is that statistically something like 75% of addicts have underlying diagnosable mental illness. Untreated of course. What I'm suggesting is that given your husband's illness and all the other stressors in your life should you be thinking of this (getting him into treatment) as another battle you have to fight? Is it your battle? Can you win or are you Don Quixote? I know that my view is different because I have spent years with parents of addicts rather than parents of solely mentally ill. But I hope you give it some thought. [/QUOTE]
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