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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 616024" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Thanks, Recovering and pasajes4. It is good to be heard, and to be defended, when I am having trouble seeing my way clear to do that.</p><p></p><p>What I found, after writing enough to recognize the guilt and shame under the anger, under the frustration and resentment, is this: This is the grown up world. There is no magical right solution. In the grown up world, we make the best decisions we know for all involved. Living through the worst probable outcome of the decisions we made does not mean the decision was wrong, or that I am (we are) guilty or responsible. What it means is that we made the best choice we knew <u>for ourselves</u> and, again and again, the worst probable outcome became the current reality.</p><p></p><p>End of story.</p><p></p><p>You are both right about not re-engaging old patterns, about sitting with the discomfort, about time and change. </p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 616024, member: 17461"] Thanks, Recovering and pasajes4. It is good to be heard, and to be defended, when I am having trouble seeing my way clear to do that. What I found, after writing enough to recognize the guilt and shame under the anger, under the frustration and resentment, is this: This is the grown up world. There is no magical right solution. In the grown up world, we make the best decisions we know for all involved. Living through the worst probable outcome of the decisions we made does not mean the decision was wrong, or that I am (we are) guilty or responsible. What it means is that we made the best choice we knew [U]for ourselves[/U] and, again and again, the worst probable outcome became the current reality. End of story. You are both right about not re-engaging old patterns, about sitting with the discomfort, about time and change. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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