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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 617677" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I wanted to add that one of my New Year's resolutions had been to be kinder to myself. I did not know how I would do that, or what it would look like. Only that I was going to try to do that. That decision, that thing to try, has resulted in the most amazing kinds of things. I find myself excusing my appearance on the days I look bad. I find myself excusing, or at least, being aware of, so many odd little things, and came to realize the depth of self-condemnation that is usual for me. Like detachment itself, it has been easy, once I decided to do it. Part of this has been detaching from those negativities I used to find validation in. But the validation I found there had nothing to do with anything real, and everything, everything to do with the role I chose to survive the dysfunctions in my family of origin.</p><p></p><p>It is only as we begin to heal that we realize how damaging the way we treat ourselves has been.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 617677, member: 17461"] I wanted to add that one of my New Year's resolutions had been to be kinder to myself. I did not know how I would do that, or what it would look like. Only that I was going to try to do that. That decision, that thing to try, has resulted in the most amazing kinds of things. I find myself excusing my appearance on the days I look bad. I find myself excusing, or at least, being aware of, so many odd little things, and came to realize the depth of self-condemnation that is usual for me. Like detachment itself, it has been easy, once I decided to do it. Part of this has been detaching from those negativities I used to find validation in. But the validation I found there had nothing to do with anything real, and everything, everything to do with the role I chose to survive the dysfunctions in my family of origin. It is only as we begin to heal that we realize how damaging the way we treat ourselves has been. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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