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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 617800" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Good morning!</p><p></p><p>Cedar, I hope it was a positive experience to relive moments where you made choices in how you would respond..............I believe that once we bring that stuff "up" from the dark recesses where they are hidden, then they are cleansed and released by the recognition of them. </p><p></p><p>It brings to mind that statement, "misery is optional." When I first heard that many years ago I really had a problem with it, <em>as if</em> we had control over our responses..............now I understand that we do...........which doesn't mean we don't feel or have empathy or compassion............like a baby---- <em>feel it, let it go</em>............we don't want to turn it into a story line and then live out the role in the story........as Carolyn Myss talks about, where we are identified by our wounding and that's who we become.......</p><p></p><p>I think your realizing "the element of choice" for yourself allows you to be empowered by the knowledge that YOU decide how you want to respond to any given situation............like those healthy Centenarian's interviewed whose common trait is the way in which they respond to life's stressors..............they have the same kinds of experiences which one suffers from, they just react and respond differently which doesn't set up long periods of suffering............they let it go.</p><p></p><p>I was recently watching a documentary on a hidden tribe in New Guinea who have absolutely no heart attacks or stress related diseases..............when the tribe leader first saw the never seen before white people, he ran around screaming with his weapon, but did not attack, did not respond with anything but surprise and warning the tribe. Once he realized there was no danger, he let it go and invited the new men into his home. He didn't harbor the fear and over-think it into something else. Like the research done in <u>Waking the Tiger</u>, about trauma and how to let it go and not let it remain in the body/mind. It's fascinating work and another reminder that WE have the power to choose and change our responses to trauma.</p><p></p><p>You've taken each step along the way Cedar and identified the feelings, felt them and recognized the options for change............you've allowed the changes necessary for you step out of the parts of relationships which are toxic for you and invited in new facets of your personality which offer healing and wholeness. I'd say you have much to celebrate and feel really good about. You've shown great courage in facing the dark places within yourself...............perhaps a Manhattan and a Dean Martin song, along with a slow dance with husband are in order now...........<em>.just for the pure fun of it! </em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 617800, member: 13542"] Good morning! Cedar, I hope it was a positive experience to relive moments where you made choices in how you would respond..............I believe that once we bring that stuff "up" from the dark recesses where they are hidden, then they are cleansed and released by the recognition of them. It brings to mind that statement, "misery is optional." When I first heard that many years ago I really had a problem with it, [I]as if[/I] we had control over our responses..............now I understand that we do...........which doesn't mean we don't feel or have empathy or compassion............like a baby---- [I]feel it, let it go[/I]............we don't want to turn it into a story line and then live out the role in the story........as Carolyn Myss talks about, where we are identified by our wounding and that's who we become....... I think your realizing "the element of choice" for yourself allows you to be empowered by the knowledge that YOU decide how you want to respond to any given situation............like those healthy Centenarian's interviewed whose common trait is the way in which they respond to life's stressors..............they have the same kinds of experiences which one suffers from, they just react and respond differently which doesn't set up long periods of suffering............they let it go. I was recently watching a documentary on a hidden tribe in New Guinea who have absolutely no heart attacks or stress related diseases..............when the tribe leader first saw the never seen before white people, he ran around screaming with his weapon, but did not attack, did not respond with anything but surprise and warning the tribe. Once he realized there was no danger, he let it go and invited the new men into his home. He didn't harbor the fear and over-think it into something else. Like the research done in [U]Waking the Tiger[/U], about trauma and how to let it go and not let it remain in the body/mind. It's fascinating work and another reminder that WE have the power to choose and change our responses to trauma. You've taken each step along the way Cedar and identified the feelings, felt them and recognized the options for change............you've allowed the changes necessary for you step out of the parts of relationships which are toxic for you and invited in new facets of your personality which offer healing and wholeness. I'd say you have much to celebrate and feel really good about. You've shown great courage in facing the dark places within yourself...............perhaps a Manhattan and a Dean Martin song, along with a slow dance with husband are in order now...........[I].just for the pure fun of it! [/I] [/QUOTE]
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