Wow, Lucy, I certainly didn't mean to make you feel defensive. If you have read many of my posts, you know that I always tell new people that our posts are based on our experiences and to take what advice works for you and ignore the rest.
My first post on this thread remarked on how similar my difficult child is to Lil's. Later, I said that I didn't agree with giving a red cross basket because kids like ours (meaning's Lil's and mine) would take that as a sign of weakness and use it to try to manipulate us into giving more and more.
As you said, the strength of this forum is sharing experiences. My experience is that giving a gift basket full of food would not be helpful in this case and I felt that I needed to share that with Lil. I wasn't being critical of you for doing so. I hope we can agree to disagree without it leading to hurt feelings. I value you as a member and think that you make a big contribution to the CD forum.
~Kathy
