Kolleen - I'll be thinking of you. Stay strong! Read my post on "drugs and substance abuse" about difficult child moving out. It has been 4 1/2 weeks now. I am cleaning out his room. He is not happy about it, says he will do it -- sure, when? Now I'm just taking charge and if he doesn't like it, too bad. I will let him know when I have a bag ready for the curb or donation and will give him a week to come by and look through it -- after that, it's gone. The things I know he will want some day I am willing to pack up and keep in my basement for him...
I must admit I have had several crying sessions as I pack up his stuff -- things from when he was young. Cards from him from his grandma and grandpa. Things I bought him he was so exicted about, like Harry Potter stuff. Notes from me that used to mean something to him and he pinned on his bulletin board. Pictures his sister drew him. Tokens of love and caring from his family that he is now rejectting and treats so shabbily....And things from his senior year -- progress reports from school which I never got, which showed him failing most of his classes. It is hard to let go of the dream of who you thought this child was going to be.... It is hard because you feel like that child is gone and who is this new person that won't do ANYTHING to make his life better?
I see from your posts that you have been through this before. I am sending ((hugs)) your way as you face it again and hope things work out for you.
