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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 476601" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>Well, I think you need to make to clear to them that they *have* to give you a narrow window of time in which they'll be there, or it's a no-go. I know it's tough to pin down when driving from out of town, but I think a 2 hour window isn't unreasonable. Maybe you could even give them the timeframe.. "I'll be here between 2 and 4, so I'll see you then." Let them arrange their schedule around YOU, not the other way around. I think the ex is playing old ex-control games with you (if he's anything like my ex), by making you wait on him and bend to his schedule... don't let him! If they're not there when you said you'd be there, that's their fault. Yeah I know you don't want to deal with the drama.. but I think you need to not be a doormat either, ya know? I hate HATE when people try to make me "hostage" by not committing to timeframes (even my cable company will give me a 2 hour window now!) Huge pet peeve of mine. </p><p></p><p>So, I say give them your window of availability, get your friend(s) to be there during that time period, and then head somewhere else if they don't get there in time.. they'll have to reschedule.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 476601, member: 1157"] Well, I think you need to make to clear to them that they *have* to give you a narrow window of time in which they'll be there, or it's a no-go. I know it's tough to pin down when driving from out of town, but I think a 2 hour window isn't unreasonable. Maybe you could even give them the timeframe.. "I'll be here between 2 and 4, so I'll see you then." Let them arrange their schedule around YOU, not the other way around. I think the ex is playing old ex-control games with you (if he's anything like my ex), by making you wait on him and bend to his schedule... don't let him! If they're not there when you said you'd be there, that's their fault. Yeah I know you don't want to deal with the drama.. but I think you need to not be a doormat either, ya know? I hate HATE when people try to make me "hostage" by not committing to timeframes (even my cable company will give me a 2 hour window now!) Huge pet peeve of mine. So, I say give them your window of availability, get your friend(s) to be there during that time period, and then head somewhere else if they don't get there in time.. they'll have to reschedule. [/QUOTE]
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