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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 694605" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Oh, hon, HUGS and welcome. I'm hoping you can find some support here!</p><p></p><p>Belle, my lovely girl. She was my reason for finding the CD board back in 2009. She was 13 then. The crazy behavior, the threats, the violence, the stealing, the feeling of not being welcome in my own home, despite the fact that I was the foundation. Then the drugs and alcohol, escalation, private foster care, jail, Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Hospitalizations, counseling, finally she got out of my car on the freeway a short 2 weeks after her 18th birthday and Bill refused to let her return.</p><p></p><p>Her bio mother was a huge part of it - verbal, physical, sexual abuse, her baby sister (not Bill's child) died at 9 months old... Then her mother passed away unexpectedly in 2011. Things changed then. At first, for the worse.</p><p></p><p>Then... Then she went to jail and realized she needed her family... But she was still using, and we would not enable that. She ended up violating probation and went to prison for one year. The horrible juxtaposition of her safety - we knew where she was and that she was alive - and her vulnerability - PRISON. She came out the other side of the razor wire fence sober and with a new appreciation for what we had done.</p><p></p><p>She still makes mistakes, don't get me wrong. But 18 months out, and she is on her own, good job, stable relationship, and 7 months pregnant (and he is a healthy boy, so far!). She's 21 now, and her mistakes are more the kind every young adult might make. </p><p></p><p>With what your SD has been through, there will be a lot of anger, a lot of craziness. Don't ever give up on her. That doesn't mean you have to be a prisoner, but if you love her (and I've a feeling you wouldn't be here if you didn't care)... Let her know. Let her know you care, but you won't enable her. And protect yourself, of course.</p><p></p><p>HUGS - it was a long road to now, and it's still going on, just not a barren, desolate wasteland anymore. Now we have flowers and trees!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 694605, member: 6705"] Oh, hon, HUGS and welcome. I'm hoping you can find some support here! Belle, my lovely girl. She was my reason for finding the CD board back in 2009. She was 13 then. The crazy behavior, the threats, the violence, the stealing, the feeling of not being welcome in my own home, despite the fact that I was the foundation. Then the drugs and alcohol, escalation, private foster care, jail, Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Hospitalizations, counseling, finally she got out of my car on the freeway a short 2 weeks after her 18th birthday and Bill refused to let her return. Her bio mother was a huge part of it - verbal, physical, sexual abuse, her baby sister (not Bill's child) died at 9 months old... Then her mother passed away unexpectedly in 2011. Things changed then. At first, for the worse. Then... Then she went to jail and realized she needed her family... But she was still using, and we would not enable that. She ended up violating probation and went to prison for one year. The horrible juxtaposition of her safety - we knew where she was and that she was alive - and her vulnerability - PRISON. She came out the other side of the razor wire fence sober and with a new appreciation for what we had done. She still makes mistakes, don't get me wrong. But 18 months out, and she is on her own, good job, stable relationship, and 7 months pregnant (and he is a healthy boy, so far!). She's 21 now, and her mistakes are more the kind every young adult might make. With what your SD has been through, there will be a lot of anger, a lot of craziness. Don't ever give up on her. That doesn't mean you have to be a prisoner, but if you love her (and I've a feeling you wouldn't be here if you didn't care)... Let her know. Let her know you care, but you won't enable her. And protect yourself, of course. HUGS - it was a long road to now, and it's still going on, just not a barren, desolate wasteland anymore. Now we have flowers and trees! [/QUOTE]
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